Sex is overrated.

[Calistine]

People are so stupid. They don't realize tha a person does not need a penis to be a boy. I feel this way. If I decide to have a masectomy and hormones, I will probably not have bottom surgery. people say, oh well you know your never going to get sexual satisfaction. I don't care. This is who I am, and I don't need a penis to say that.

[Nero]

yeah and you don't need a penis to have sex. and no, sex is not overrated.

[Mister]

I halfway agree with Nero... but I'm biased.  lol.   Sex is NOT overrated.  IMO, the only people who think it is are the people who aren't getting any.

[Chamillion]

I used to think sex was overrated too, mostly because I didn't really like being touched. Going on T has changed that completely though and now I love it. I think a lot of it just has to do with having dysphoria about your body; if you can find a way to overcome that, sex is dank.

[tekla]

Sex is overrated

You're doing it wrong then.

[finewine]

If I generously assume that the OP's "sex is overrated" is refering (very clumsily) to sex classification by genital anatomy, then yeah kinda. And yes, being a boy is more than whether you have Mr. Bojangles between your thighs.

However, I can't help but read it the same way previous posters have, in which case...bollocks dear, sex is fabulous.

[NicholeW.]

There's nothing wrong with sex that a good partner cannot help cure.

And for the other sex, there's nothing that a good endo and surgeon cannot cure.

[Janet_Girl]

Sex is not overrated, unless it is in your wrong gender/sex.

And just as you don't need a penis to be a man, nether does one need a vagina to be a woman.

Gender is between the ears, not the legs.


Janet

[Virginia87106]

There are women who have penises, and there are men who have vaginas.  The genitalia does not make the person.  Some like to have sex, others don't, and for some it does not matter.  The important thing is that you have no body modifications because you think you "should", or you feel pressured by the culture to, or you feel pressured by other trans-people to.  Have the modifications, if any, because YOU want to.  And the way you want your body is YOUR business, and you may refer to yourself in the gender of your presentation.
If you want to have sex, have it with joy and gusto you deserve, whatever your body looks like.

[sneakersjay]

I would love to get a meta.  But if it doesn't work as well afterwards, I'll be truly bummed.  I keep thinking, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.  Won't change the way I have sex anyway, so...?


Jay

[Walter]

Ok I'm gonna edit this post before anyone else sees it. My original post seemed kinda immature so I'll try and rephrase it so it doesn't sound stupid

Yes I kind of agree that sex seems to be overrated. But I'm a virgin and haven't experienced anything sexual so I can't really say from experience. I'm pretty sure that even if I had sex I would still feel the same way. I mean..I'm Asexual so I don't feel any sexual attraction (once in a great while I do though).

Just stating my opinion..not trying to look like a troll or anything

[Jay]

no, sex is not overrated.

Yeah it really isn't! If its done right that is

I can't wait to have a phallo and for the surgery's to be complete so I get to have sex properly!

Jay

[finewine]

I don't think it was trollish, Walter.

In fact, it's perfectly understandable - if, for whatever reason, a person has no interest in sex, they're hardly likely to have much opportunity to understand what all the fuss is about.   I can rave about how wonderful asparagus is but if it's not to your taste, it's inevitable that asparagus will seem "overrated"

[stacyB]

Kind of two parts here.... first is obvious, dont knock it till ya tried it, and of course once you try it, if done right... well, you know the rest... 

but....

...some might not find it enjoyable even "done right" if love does not accompany sex. If sex is truly great, sex with someone you love and have a deep connection with... well, awesome doesnt begin to describe it! 

Thats where whats between your ears comes into play. Notice I made no mention what equipment you or your lover utilize... not really relavent....

[Autumn]

Asexuality is a biological abnormality - the human species is designed to want sex, frequently. Even homosexuals (...especially homosexuals?) seek out sex, it's not simply for reproduction.

I know two asexual people. One of them told me she was molested many, many times growing up and has major trust issues.

The other was hugely christian, and told me that I was the only person she'd ever been attracted to in her life. Poor girl, how confusing that had to be.

Both of them, obviously hadn't experienced normal intimacy/relationships.

[Jaimey]

I would also add that the societal expectations for sex can also be a major turn off.  I have a feeling that's a big reason why I hate giving head.  Girls are (in a way) pressured to give head (I say "girls" because I have a female body...I suppose gay boys have the same pressure, but I don't know).  Just being expected to do it makes me not want to do it.    I know an asexual person and if I had to guess, I'd say that's a big part of his reason.

[Eamber]

The misconception that Asexual people are somehow "Damaged" annoys me.

I've never had any traumatic sexual experiences, and I'm not religious. There is nothing stopping me from wanting to have sex. I just don't feel sexually attracted to anybody. Never have. Oh, boobs, penis... Boring. It hasn't changed since I was a kid. (I'm 19) I don't really understand or see the appeal of things people describe as sexually exciting. I've been in a few normal relationships, but those parts seem fairly mundane. I thought transition might change it, but nope. Oh well.

I can only imagine how bothersome and distracting it must be to be thinking about it all the time. Poor you guys!

[sneakersjay]

The misconception that Asexual people are somehow "Damaged" annoys me.

I've never had any traumatic sexual experiences, and I'm not religious. There is nothing stopping me from wanting to have sex. I just don't feel sexually attracted to anybody. Never have. Oh, boobs, penis... Boring. It hasn't changed since I was a kid. (I'm 19) I don't really understand or see the appeal of things people describe as sexually exciting. I've been in a few normal relationships, but those parts seem fairly mundane. I thought transition might change it, but nope. Oh well.

I can only imagine how bothersome and distracting it must be to be thinking about it all the time. Poor you guys!

My sister is asexual.  She is 46 years old and a virgin.  While she occasionally entertains dating men, she's extremely picky.  And then, she realizes, that men want sex....  She has never had sex, mind you, but thinks it's disgusting (her words).  She said stuff like this when she was 12 -- I thought she'd outgrow it.  Never knew people could be asexual esp. when I have always had a huge sex drive (even if I wasn't having sex!)

She seems to be happy, so who am I to convince her she's missing something?

Jay

[lisagurl]

Sex is overrated

You're doing it wrong then.

Been there done that and I can find plenty of other things that are above it on the happiness scale.

[Miniar]

It's not the sex that's the issue, but the personal preference.
Just because you feel that sex is overrated, doesn't mean sex is, it means that you, yourself, aren't into sex all that much.
From my point of view however, even if I still don't have the "correct" equipment, I'm able to have good sex. And Nothing I've ever experienced can top a good couple of hours, playing in bed, sharing pleasure and understanding of one another's bodies, culminating in a moment of pure physical intimacy. There's just Nothing that tops it. Ofcourse, the way I see it, one has to have acceptance of both (all) bodies involved, and perfect, reciprocated, (and well founded) trust in the partner. When you have that, you can truly make magic.