Preface: Drag queen as in gay male who likes to dress up and has done so for a long time, although, worked fully in drag at at least one job.
We do not allow costumes at all. You can wear red white and blue on the 4th of july and I think red stuff for christmas and a santa hat, but otherwise, nobody gets to dress up for anything. I guess I should have pointed that out, my apologies for the confusion folks.
Quote from: Kristi on October 12, 2009, 01:12:40 PM
Wow, Autumn, you sure are going through some stuff, aren't you? I would think that coming to work female would be one thing. Coming in typical drag queen attire might be a little over the top, especially for where you work.
Why don't you just dress female for Halloween, kind of prime the pump? As I am sure you know, you do not look male. Just come looking like your pretty self and I bet the girls who work there would love it.
So when are we going shoe shopping, GF?
I'm wearing my baggy mens' pants again because of nerve problems in my thighs (and this actually adds dimension and weight to my lower half - probably a good thing), but otherwise I fully dress female, I'll do mascara and earrings some days, but not obvious things like liner, color, etc. Not that I really want to wear that most days anyway. I don't even *want* to wear a lot of makeup in my free time, and I do not sell girly things. I don't think people want to talk plumbing with someone wearing pink nail polish. Stereotypes and small aesthetic changes are very powerful factors. The few times I wore a womens' ring, I massively freaked people out at school and work, when to me, it was the least significant thing about my gender bending. I got called out on being transgendered twice over the bloody ring. Similarly, going by my male name, most customers hear the female version even though I give them the full male one. And when people do catch my male name, I've had them ask what my real name is. If i was wearing full on makeup and femmed out entirely and going by a male name, that wouldn't make any sense - but a butch girl taking a masculine version of her name does. I'm also not going to start giving customers a female name - like he proposed when coming dressed - because that causes all sorts of problems. I'm not deceiving anyone. If anyone asks directly I'm a boy named Name, I just didn't correct their pronouns to not put them on the spot.
That's one thing, though. I am actually suffering performance wise because of the name thing. I do not volunteer a name to most customers which is poor customer service and poor for returning customers - I do give out my cards to decent leads still, obviously. I had to suck it up and do that, though it hurts to out myself, it's necessary.
I had my nails painted before for halloween, and I painted two nails green last year around christmas - my boss said I should have done red and green. I probably will this year. As pretty as I think painted nails are, I don't like the damage it causes, but hey, for holidays why not?
My female coworkers like me a lot, we'll talk about all the usual girl stuff - I had laser hair removal and brow threading done before any of the women there, so several ladies were curious. Some gush about how pretty I am and what a more masculine hair cut would do for me, but :p
