Hey all,
My name's Pat...I'm new here...early 20's women's studies major @ a university in Montreal, Quebec. I'm male-bodied by nature but completely bi-gendered mentally. Here's the thing: I struggled for a LONG time with confusion as to what I was (as I'm sure you all have too). Right from the first moment of consciousness I knew that I didn't feel comfortable being identified as a guy...than in my pre-teen years (9-12) I started experimenting with dress...putting on my mom's bras, underpants, skirts, etc. I started thinking "hey maybe I was supposed to have been born a girl?) Well you can probably understand the confusion I went through, yet again, when I went through puberty and I didn't develop breasts. I remember having an almost pathalogical addiction to the sight of breasts & hips, feeling jealous of all my female-bodied peers. By mid-teens I simply forgot about my gender issues and resigned myself to being a bisexual male. Fast forward to three years ago when it was in school, given the academic vocabulary with which to describe these feelings that I started questioning it all again. I think I've read just about every single thing Patrick Califia has ever written ad nausem. So just recently I came to the conclusion that I am definitely NOT transsexual, in that I wouldn't feel comfortable with being slotted into the other end of the spectrum either. I've come to the conclusion that genderqueer is definitely the best way to describe myself mentally for now and after A LOT of introspection I've decided that I would like to start hormones to bring my physical body more in line with my mental state. I'm definitely very gender dysphoric (yes I know that term is loaded). I say this because I don't mind my facial hair but despise my chest hair (starting electrolysis on that in the next few months), I don't hate my penis but I would definitely feel more comfortable with breasts, I don't mind my broad shoulders but would feel more comfortable with hips.
So after that long winded intro...here's my question:
I'm searching for a therapist this week...one who can (hopefully) aid me in my quest for semi-transition. But I was wondering, if I go in there and tell them all this stuff about how I'm feel ambigous mentally and would like my body to match that "in-between-ness" will they outright deny me them because I'm not a TRUE transsexual
OR should I go in there and try and play the "I'm-a-type-1-
>-bleeped-<" card and try and convince them that I've felt like a "woman trapped inside a man, my whole life I've felt like a woman, blah blah blah" I've heard stories of a few genderqueers who have done that in order to get hormones legitimately. I feel trapped almost....it's choosing between lying about my true gender identity in order to obtain cheap(er), safe(r), and regulated hormones and staying integrally true to myself but paying exorbinant amounts for unsafe, unregulated, outright freaking scary, hormones from the street dealers.
Seriously....what am I to do?
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Any thoughts on any of this would be appreciated!!
Cheers: Pat