More than just the "M"
http://www.syrlinus.com/?p=9229/5/09
Jacky recently commented on why he (is that the pronoun you use, Jacky?) won't change his gender from F to M. I'm of a similar mind. Part of me wants to make that change, I'll admit, but mostly for purely selfish reasons: the US doesn't allow for same-sex marriage and, as a result, I wouldn't be able to use it as part of a submission to get a green card (nevermind that Ontario requires surgery to be done to reflect gender and then letters from surgeons to indicate that it's been done). If I had the necessary surgery(ies) and got this done, then the next step would be far easier. Unfortunately, it's not and I haven't but I also really don't want to. The reality is that who I was is part of who I am.
