Referel to endo, propecia and womens bathrooms

[Nicky]

This is just a random bunch of things about what I am up to...

I got a referel to an endochronologist. Might take 3 months before I get an appointment. I'm actually feeling a little bit conflicted about it, mainly because I worry that if I change too much my wife won't find me attractive anymore. We have talked about it but there is no real knowing of where the line would be. So the plan at this stage is to request a subtle change and see how it goes. If anything I think de-masculanising is more important to me than femanising i.e. reduction of body hair, some upper body muscle mass.

I got prescribed propecia for my hair loss. I'm really releaved at that, should receive it soon. I found an online pharmacy that sells it a bit cheaper than anyone else does. Still a bit pricy 

This weekend I went to the pool with my daughter. I've got a womens surf singlet top and some board shorts. It is pretty tricky tucking your stuff for the pool but I did well enough I think - I wore a couple pairs of nickers underneaith. But realisticly I look pretty male physically. I have quite a good upper body but considering what I was wearing I think I was fairly androgynous. I also went to the pool wearing a skirt, my daughter needed to pee. I was not about to go to the mens bathroom in my skirt so decided to just use the womens. It was a little scary but no big deal, except my daughter kept calling me daddy while we were in the stall 

I also started wearing skirts and dressed to work now and then (on days my father in-law does not drop me off - he is not in the 'know').  I got some good reactions. Someone said I looked summery, and I got compliments on my skirts. Apart from that all good. My id tag still has a very youthful and manly me on it - I love the contrast  .

me me me - sorry, just feel like talking about me again...

[Eva Marie]

Nicky-

Check out finapecia. It's a generic for propecia, and it's made by cipla in india (huge drug company). Since it is generic it's less expensive than propecia. You may have to mail order it.

Have you started using minoxidil yet? You can get generic minoxidil over the counter. I'd suggest using both propecia/finapecia and minoxidil together.

I've been using both of them together for quite a while, but lately i'm getting some fuzz on the old bald spot, so it seems to be working, albeit slowly. But anything is better than nothing 

Congrats on your progress.

[sparkles]

great to hear your moving things forward, i got my bloods back from my gp today all normal and no probs there so looks like it might be about 3 months for me too as long as i book an apoinment. we are also worrying about the same things and wonder where the line lays but will have to see when the time comes the breasts might be the bigest problem.
its cool about the propecia i worry all the time about the hair loss issue. will be looking into that when i see the doc again.

the toilet issue is one that im still trying to get my head round though i dont wear a skirt which makes it more ovious which one you might be using id love to go swiming more though i dont know what to wear i do own a tankini but have not used it yet.

nothing wrong in talking about yourself its good to see what people are doing

[barbie]

I have taken finesteride (Finastar) for one month since my friend prescribed it, as I am officially diagnosed as having prostate enlargement. I divide one pill into four, taking one everyday. I heard that it would take at least 6 months to see any difference, and I am not quite sure whether I can ever see any change.

I also once wore miniskirts outdoors with my kids, not just during the Halloween day. Also, tube tops. My wife and kids do not like my wearing them. Nowadays I do not wear skirts or tube tops while I am with my family.

Yes. My 5-yr old daughter always call me dad, dad and dad when I wear red lipstick. She also likes wearing my 5-inch high heel sandals of red and pink color, which I purchased but never wore outdoors. She sometimes jokingly calls me like mom or ma'am, even lady.

Barbie~~

[Nicky]

Generic finasteride does not seem to be available in NZ unfortunately. But I'll talk to my GP about getting proscar and chop it up, which should be much cheaper.

Considering my hair loss is really minor I will see how the propecia goes. The specialist said the propecia should do the job. I'll be totally happy if I don't loose anymore hair, getting some back would just be a bonus.  Minoxidil here is as expensive as propecia, can't afford both.

I got my propecia in the mail this morning (it was cheaper from an online pharmacy). I'll take it tonight with my antidepressant.  I'm looking forward to taking it - Die DHT! haha. You never know, I might be in the 'unlucky' 1% that gets some breast growth  .

[sparkles]

You never know, I might be in the 'unlucky' 1% that gets some breast growth  .

oh how terrible if that happened  what ever would you do

[Pica Pica]

sob at the unfairness of love I imagine.

Life... I mean life.

[Nicky]

Since taking finasteride the last couple days I have started to get weird sensations in my breasts - almost hot/cold feeling. Kept me up. Weird. I'm sitting here now at work and it is distracting.

[Tammy Hope]

except my daughter kept calling me daddy while we were in the stall

Oh my yes. On the 17th we went to the next town (where's there's a Supercenter) to get some things we can't get in this town - me and my two sons. I make it a practice when I go out of the local town to dial up the feminine presentation as high as is practical.

My kids call me "Daddy" and after we were in the store I realized the clash between my presentation and being called that. It was akward to ask them to maybe not use that word so much if they could help it. I know i don't pass on close examination but i get enough ma'ams now to knw that a lot of folks are not looking close enough to clock me and being called Daddy then becomes a real head turner.

Also, what's worse, my wife's favorite pet name for me is, you guessed it, "daddy"

when I asked her about maybe going with "honey" or something she basically said "as long as you have male plumbing I don't want to call you anything else."

So same difference, here i am in the market in makeup and maybe a heafband or something and clothes that are clearly female and she's calling me daddy every three minutes.

*sigh*

that was something I hadn't anticipated.

[Arch]

So same difference, here i am in the market in makeup and maybe a heafband or something and clothes that are clearly female and she's calling me daddy every three minutes.

Gah. My ex used to use female pronouns to refer to me in public. It didn't happen often that he needed to refer to me in the third person, but when he did...

It was maddening. I knew that I wasn't really "passing" consistently; that wasn't it at all. It was a respect thing. I don't know how hard he was trying. I just felt that he should have been trying harder. I guess that was asking a lot.

But, seriously--to NEVER refer to me as "he" or "him" in public? I felt that he was being disrespectful.

He started calling me "he" right after my top surgery.

P.S. About "Daddy," it must drive you nuts that people call you that, but when I come home and my favorite cat greets me, I say, "Daddy's home!!!" LOL.

[Nicky]

I personally like being called dad, I am my kids dad. But publicly it does feel pretty jarring. The bathrooms could be a bit dangerous so I will watch that. For all other purposes I think I will just get used to it. I don't really want to be anything else (though I considered getting them to use my first name, but I find that weird).

It was something I never really anticipated either Laura, I did not anticipate that I would find it jarring either. On the flip side sometimes when other people talk to my daughter in my presence they refer to me as her Mommy. My daughter does not blink an eye bless her. But i'm sure when she is older it will be "No, he is my daddy!"

Oh, I got my endo appointment! Start of November. Cool. I don't actually think they will be able to offer much because I want to hold onto my fertility until we have another kid (plan to have another in a couple years time), but perhaps they can do something. Any progress is good progress I reckon.

Definitly getting puffy nipples on the propecia. I have a theory that the incidence of such side effects of propecia/finasteride, gynomastasia, will be higher in the transgendered than the rest of the population...I'll make a topic on that another time.

[Tammy Hope]

Gah. My ex used to use female pronouns to refer to me in public. It didn't happen often that he needed to refer to me in the third person, but when he did...

It was maddening. I knew that I wasn't really "passing" consistently; that wasn't it at all. It was a respect thing. I don't know how hard he was trying. I just felt that he should have been trying harder. I guess that was asking a lot.

But, seriously--to NEVER refer to me as "he" or "him" in public? I felt that he was being disrespectful.

He started calling me "he" right after my top surgery.

P.S. About "Daddy," it must drive you nuts that people call you that, but when I come home and my favorite cat greets me, I say, "Daddy's home!!!" LOL.

Actually no.

when I'm at home, or when I'm kind of andro in my presentation I don't mind at all.

the only time I mind it really grates on me is when I really fem up my presentation, enough to get ma'amed by the unobservant....and THEN she hauls it out. If I'm fooling anyone, It bothers me a bit that she "outs" me by using that word. Especially when any number of other pet names would work.

(and I can't be irked at my kids for it under any circumstances, we still have a great relationship after all and a lot of us girls can't say that)