Lexia, one of my points was that you seemed to be falling into the same trap that you accuse others of falling into. You seem to think that people make a false dichotomy by using the terms "straight" and "queer" as opposites, but a lot of people, including me and practically all of my close friends, do not use those terms as polar opposites. For those of us who do that (and, in my travels, I've encountered quite a few of us), there is no dichotomy. I think perhaps you have misunderstood how a great many people use those terms.
I enjoy discussion about controversial subjects, including people's labeling systems or lack of them. However, as a moderator, I draw the line at invective, personal attacks, and negative judgments on how people self-label and self-identify. People have a right to come to Susan's and label themselves as straight or queer or whatever, without having someone else call those labels "BS."