Why do you come to Susan's?

[Traci New]

I came here looking for knowledge, understanding, and people like me.

[BeverlyAnn]

I first came here in 1997 after lurking for a few months.  My brother was in the hospital and I used his computer (first I had ever used online) to do a search for, I think, transgender.  I almost fell over when it came back and said something like "AOL found 48,743..."  One of the first to come up was Susan's.   I had never known another transgender person and through Susan's I actually met some local people.  Which led me to being somewhat out.  Which led to founding the Big Brother/Big Sister program for newcomers at Southern Comfort Conference and sitting at a table with someone on her first night out who is now nationally known transgender advocate.  That's the backstory.

Intervening years and caring, in her home, for my mother with dementia along with a disabled brother I lost touch with the entire transgender community.  The other night I was thinking about all the friends I no longer am in touch with and ended getting depressed and started crying.  So I came back here rejoining on 11/3.  Even if it's just online, I wanted to be among what I consider family.  I was pleased to see there is a way to financially help the site now and I'm happy to do what I can, if for no other reason, than I owe Susan so much more than I can ever repay.

[Kellam]

Why do I come here? Because I love this place, the folks here helped me find myself. I came here lost and scared in search of hope. I found that hope and I found a light to shine on my path to redemption.

[kittenpower]

Potluck Wednesday is what keeps me coming back.

[slyblue]

I'm here to share experiences mostly. I also want to meet people like me who have been through similar experiences and empathize with me.

[Karen5519]

I come to meet others like myself and try to give back to the community and those that are going through the rigors of transition.  Having been through it all years ago, and now living a successful life, I think I might be able to provide some help to those who have questions about what their future might hold.  I want them to know that yes what they are doing is not easy and sometimes very frustrating and difficult but, having said that, on the other side the world that they will live in will be a vast improvement over what they have known and the opportunities they will experience will be rich and fulfilling.

[wanessa.delisola]

I came here to meet people like me. I dont know anyone who lives the same life that I do, no one to share experiences and talk about whats happening to me.  Most of the time I dont talk much on the forum, but I read a lot and learned a lot of things!

[Jamie_06]

I came here because a couple months ago, I came to a realization that I might be trans and I had no idea up until that point. It was too much to deal with on my own and I couldn't tell anyone IRL. I was getting too anxious and depressed to go on. I needed an outlet, somewhere I could talk about this without any judgment and to find people who could help me come to terms with what I was feeling.

I'm glad this community is here; I don't know what I would have done without you.

[kittenpower]

Welcome to Susan's, and congratulations for taking your first steps 👣

[Julie Marie]

I came BACK here because I'm still a transwoman and always will be.

Can't believe what I started many moons ago is still going.  I guess the question is always relevant.

[Dena]

The refrigerator expired - honest. I replace it but because of low water pressure the ice maker and water dispenser weren't functioning. I called Sear's product support 5 times because I kept getting the wrong information or my call was dropped and was sired each call. Time to research voice surgery and the best source of information turned out to be Susan's. I had the surgery a couple of months latter and a year latter I can't get this stupid chain off my leg that Cindy and the rest of the moderator staff put on it.

[WarGrowlmon1990]

I come on here to talk to and meet other trans people, and to basically keep myself from going insane while I wait to get respite. As soon as a worker can watch my kids, I can finally start seeing a gender therapist and maybe attend a group. I also come on here to remind myself that nobody can dictate who I am (in situations where certain people in my life will try to convince me that I'm not trans and not part of the trans community). I also want to learn how to help our community out. I was thinking of maybe volunteering and helping homeless trans youth once my babies are in school, but I have no idea how I can do so.

[Michelle_P]

What WarGrowlMon1990 says.  Yes!

This is the best support group I can find.  No, really.  You're here 24/7, there is a large, active and diverse membership, and lots of good information and friendly advice.  I've gone to real-world support group meetings, but the total Trans population not in total stealth no-contact mode in my suburban county seems to be about a dozen. Meeting for an hour once a month doesn't quite cut it for me.

[rose_thorn]

To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and expereinces
To gain confidence
To learn how do deal with certain issues

[nozomichansparkles]

To get information on how to go from getting my letters to actually getting surgery. Thanks

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[toxicketchup]

To gain confidence and meet other people like me, definitely. I don't have a whole wealth of self-esteem and I'm quite lonely offline.

[Riv3n]

I'm just wondering if I'm LGBT+ or not. I have nothing against these people, I would just find it convenient to know if and where I fall under that spectrum. I'm already under the autism spectrum, something I'm admittedly not proud about. Right now, I want to make a post on here about my issues, but I don't know where to start.

[V M]

The "General discussions" forum could possibly be a good place to start

Maybe start a topic called something like "Autism and the LGBT Community"

There you could state your issues and get advise from others who are also along the spectrum

I think you may be a bit surprised by how many other people are also somewhere along the autistic spectrum and will be happy to participate

Hugs

V M

[LizK]

I'm just wondering if I'm LGBT+ or not. I have nothing against these people, I would just find it convenient to know if and where I fall under that spectrum. I'm already under the autism spectrum, something I'm admittedly not proud about. Right now, I want to make a post on here about my issues, but I don't know where to start.

Hi Riv3n

I am sure we can help you navigate this quagmire of questions you may have.

First thing is that most cis male/females do not spend any amount of time questioning their gender if at all. My 57 year old brother had never considered the question  until I came out. In most cases I would suggest that if you are here questioning then there is a pretty good chance you fit somewhere on the Trans spectrum. If you are unsure where to post just make the post in the section you think suits the best and if it is not right the Mods will make sure it gets to the right section so it will be seen by the people you want.

Do you have specific things you would like to ask

Liz

[Riv3n]

Hi Riv3n

I am sure we can help you navigate this quagmire of questions you may have.

First thing is that most cis male/females do not spend any amount of time questioning their gender if at all. My 57 year old brother had never considered the question  until I came out. In most cases I would suggest that if you are here questioning then there is a pretty good chance you fit somewhere on the Trans spectrum. If you are unsure where to post just make the post in the section you think suits the best and if it is not right the Mods will make sure it gets to the right section so it will be seen by the people you want.

Do you have specific things you would like to ask

Liz

Thank you, but not right now. I'll talk about them later when I am hopefully less busy.