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Why is it so unreachable?

Started by cindianna_jones, October 11, 2006, 07:46:31 PM

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cindianna_jones

How can I describe this feeling to want, this need to hold and to console?   Depression it is not, perhaps it borders there.  So many I must help, but they labor so far distant. Oh, that I could be with them to embrace and console. My spirit flitters hither and thither crying for their calming. Anxiety cruelly tugs from the edges, hoping to pull me to another plane.  Am I so different, so disconnected, that my thoughts defy my very existence? Could it be that I need that very love I so desperately want to give? 

Cindi
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Melissa

It is a 2 way feeling,  You want to hold and console and at the same time be held and consoled.  That is normal for humans.  It is a basic human need.  Have you ever tried cuddling with a complete stranger who wanted to do the same?  I have and I'll tell you it's a wonderful thing.

Melissa
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Sheila

Cindi, that was so beautiful the way you wrote that. I loved it. I was so much involved in the wording and how it went together, I had to read it twice to see the meaning. I too, would love to have someone that I could talk to about my feelings. I don't get that from my wife as she has really kind of disconnected me from my feelings. She says she still loves me, but when I put forth my feelings, it's always grow up and act your age. I can't talk to her anymore. Maybe it is a two way street and she feels the same. I don't know.
Sheila
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angelsgirl

You cannot erase the troubles of this world, but make them your own.  If you take on someone's troubles you do not cure them of it, but duplicate it onto yourself.  You may perhaps cure them in yourself, but that doesn't mean you can cure them in others. 

As frustrating as it is, you must accept that you are only one person and can do as much as one person can do. At some point you will have to say "I've done all that I am able to do." You can listen, you can console, you can advise, but you can't do it for the entire world. 

How do you suppose the scientist that wants to cure disease narrows it down to the one that work on?  How does one choose AIDS over cancer or vice-versa? I'm sure it's a very personal decision, but it is a decision that has to be made.  You may have to decide that you will give out your love and support in return for love and support, because that's what it sounds like you need.  And there's nothing wrong with that.  We all have to be a little bit selfish to keep ourselves healthy. If you want to fight the good fight then you're going to have to keep yourself in shape for it.  I know you can do it, Cindi, but you have to choose to do it!

~Hugs,
Kelly
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