This post right here is not an attack, I want to make that clear, but I will mention a few things you may find uncomfortable none the less.
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Hate-speech in Iceland refers to slanderous attacks on a minority, subculture or an individual, as well as the suggestion of violence against a minority, subculture or individual.
Either way, a clear "intent to harm" is required.
I haven't studied international law but I do have a couple of lawyer friends and I have a fair grasp on common sense, and what I know includes this.
Just because you feel offended, insulted, or in some way get your feelings hurt, it doesn't mean that there's hate involved at all.
One of the things that is really hard for a human being to deal, on an emotional and intellectual level, is the possibility that something we "know" and care about may be wrong. Every time someone disagrees with us, we are forced to face the potential that we're capable of being wrong.
With your problems, this may be aggravated.
You have to realize that when people disagree with you, that doesn't equate hate, it doesn't equate any kind of attack even.
When someone however, calls you names, attacks you directly, suggests to others that you are in some way worthy of hate, then you've got a personal attack going and when that personal attack revolves around some part of you (like sex, race, religion, gender identity, sexuality, and such) then that attack is hate.
Saying "I don't believe in the christian god" is not hate.
Even saying "Christianity is BS" is not hate.
But when someone says "all christians are {insert derogatory statement here} and should be {insert suggestion of some form of violence here}" THEN you got hate.