preparing for transition

[tomas_20]

Hi all, Im a 20 year old male wanting to become female. This past year I have been stressing alot because obviously its a huge step to take. I have always secretly worn girls clothes and feel inside that I am a girl seriously for the last few years and I dont know what to do.
Anyone who has personal experience like this could you give me some info please or some guidance? If I go through with this theres no turning back and I want it to be perfect and not a disaster.

[jesse]

step one go to a therapist who specializes in GID you will need this for all the other transityional related things
i am happy for you this is a long journey and you have just taken the initial step
jessica

[Janet_Girl]

Hi Tomas,

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Step 1.  Find a Gender therapist.  Step 2. besides here I would recommend TS Roadmap for more information.

Blessed Be.
Janet

[K8]

Hi Tomas.  Welcome to Susan's.

I too will recommend a therapist or counselor to help you sort things out.  This may help guide you, but mainly it is to have someone ask you relevant questions so that you can determine for yourself what you want and need to do. 

The TS RoadMap is good information.  Just remember that it is a guide one person followed and the order is not required.  You will want to adjust it for your own needs and situation.

I found that part of the early process that I needed was to open up to my friends and those around me, so they wouldn't be surprised and could help me if they were willing.  The coming-out process is a whole subset in itself.

Look around Susan's here.  You will find lots of good information and perhaps make some good friends.

Welcome.

- Kate