I told my mum a while back but she forgot, how?

[AdamT]

Hello, im new here (already introduced ) and now im in need of some help.

I told my mum a while back what i wanted to do and she did not seem fine with it at all, she only cared for how much it would cost and how people would look at her in a different way because her son was really a transgender.

A few months down the line and she has forgoten! please explain to me how something like this can be forgoten, especialy by a mother. It upsets me because my mum has forgoten the single most important thing about me, i told her everything aswell from how long ive been feeling like this to how unhappy i am.

Please someone explain or shed some light

Thanks for reading

[Nicky]

Can we get a little more info - what her words were and how you approached it the second time round?

Maybe she was just hoping it would all go away. Or maybe she is in denial, it was too hard to deal with so she blocked it out and perhaps if you remained pretty much the same since last telling her then maybe she did believe that nothing would happen, then she pleaded ignorance to cover up the fact she is hoping nothing does change i.e if I put my head in the sand maybe it will all go away. Maybe a good starting point could be to tell her how much it hurt to lay your heart out for her the first time and then she turns around a 'forgets' single most important thing about you. Might give her a bit of a jog.

You could just focus on re-talking to her about it - start afreash. Might be a good opportunity, seeing as you have had a 'practise' run this time might come out better.

This is really hard. You want her to be focusing on the fact that you are in pain, but because it is a shock to her maybe she is only focusing on herself. I don't think this is an unnatural reaction.

[AdamT]

I found it hard to explain to her, i first approached her asking if i could have a quiet chat, she gave me a worried look because i never ask for quiet chats.

So i was there and she was there and she asked what this was about, i said that i feel unhappy the way i am and she replied with what do you mean, i resitantly told her that from an early age i havent felt right and that i dont feel happy as a male.

My mum then questioned me by saying "you want a sex change?" and i said yes, and then she kind of got all angry with me saying stuff like what do you think other people will say when they hear about this,i havent got that knid of money and i tried to explain to her its how ive felt for such a long time.

She stormed off and after that my mum asked me stuff like have i ever worn womans clothes and i said yeah, they feel comftable and i feel more like myself when wearing them. Another question was have i ever had any feeling for other guys which i honestly answerd yes, i wanted my mum to know how i felt but since that last question, she hasnt mentioned anything about it all and im at the point where i want to go ahead and become a woman becuase i really feel unhappy now but i dont know why my mum forgot or how i am meant to approach her again.