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So, the wife was not happy that I shaved the legs

Started by Eva Marie, November 12, 2009, 11:47:53 PM

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Eva Marie

If she only knew..... I just got in a nice shipment of girly stuff from kohls.

We had the old "i'm an androgyne" discussion quite a while ago, and she seemed on board with it.

Apparently it was OK if there were no changes, and nothing was affected.

Yeah, right, like that's gonna happen.

Looks like some rocky times ahead for this unicorn  :(

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aurora17

Nice legs...

Reminds me of the first time I shaved, not my legs, but my hands (I used to have a bit of hair on the top of my hands, but it seems that hormones helped with that)... I actually had to say "hey, I just hate hair on my hands!", and after one or two remarks, nobody just paid attention anymore.

By the way, although body hair seems to be going down as time goes with hormones, it seems that hair on the legs is not fading away very fast. I will probably seek laser hair removal on the legs when the face is done and complete with FFS, next summer.  ;D
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Janet_Girl

I remember when I shaved just my feet.  Not that they were hairy or anything, just for the feel.  My ex felt it and went absolutely bonkers.  Oh to relive those days.  ::) Not!  ;D

You have my best wishes, Riven.


Janet
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Eva Marie

I think that we are gonna have to have a little talk this weekend.

Not for sure how thats going to wind up  :o :( :)
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Elijah3291

aw, well they look really nice

I haven't shaved my legs in months and you can't even tell! ugh, I'd be glad to take some of that hair from you girls.
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Kinkly

I don't want to be a man there from Mars
I'd Like to be a woman Venus looks beautiful
I'm enjoying living on Pluto, but it is a bit lonely
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Shana A

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde


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Hannah

Quote from: aurora17 on November 12, 2009, 11:54:47 PM
I will probably seek laser hair removal on the legs

I did that, and it freaking HURTS when they hit a vein. You get all cozy and yummy because the hair removal itself isn't bad at all compared to the face, and then they go over a shallow vein and you think your'e going to die.

I'll send you some good energy Riven, good luck.
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Nero

Good luck sweetie and if that's you in the picture, she's probably just jealous you have better legs than her!  :laugh:
Nero was the Forum Admin here at Susan's Place for several years up to the time of his death.
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Windrider

I like when Dani shaves her legs. Mmmm....smooooooth :P

WR
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Eva Marie

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Quote from: Nero on November 13, 2009, 08:01:15 PM
Good luck sweetie and if that's you in the picture, she's probably just jealous you have better legs than her!  :laugh:

Yes, it is all me nero. She has not seen that photo, and yes, there is a good chance that my legs are nicer than hers. Thats kind of tough on a GG, the thought that a husbands legs are nicer than her own legs.

I think that tomorrow night i'm going to broach this subject  :o Tonight wasn't a good night for that. But it needs to be brought out, and dealt with.



Post Merge: November 14, 2009, 08:53:58 PM

Well, I had the chat with the wife.

Her main concern had to do with the kids. Apparently my 15 year old daughter had said something the last time I shaved. "What should I have said when she asked me if daddy had shaved his legs?"

This is a valid concern.  This is the same daughter that busted me with clear nail polish a while back (she's pretty observant).

So, as long as i'm under stealth as far as our kids (and neighbors) go, she's OK with having a husband with a femme side.

I expect that we'll test that point of view sometime in the future when she finds out that i've crossdressed and tried out makeup.
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Nicky

How do you feel about that? Needing to be 'stealth'? It is good that you managed to talk to her. Well done! Just keep talking!

The simplest answers are the honest ones - yes, daddy shaves their legs. Its not like your daughter is going to stop loving you cause you shave your legs and it is really none of her business (that is what I think anyway). My wife was actually pretty similar to yours: "I'm ok as long as I don't see it and nobody else does". It comes from fear. In her case she feared I would leave her. Things have gotten much better fortunately.

Personally I think there is nothing wrong with a guy shaving their legs - not that you are a guy or anything. But I suspect people around us pick up, maybe unconciously, on the fact that we are somewhat gender variant and so they become hyper sensitive to changes. Lots of guys shave their legs - body builders, cyclists, swimmers. You don't see their partners asking them to hide it from their kids of neighbours.

My wife does not like me shaving my legs either, but mainly because I get stubbly so quick. My 3 year old said I had stalks on my legs  ;D
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Cyndigurl45

OMG what an issue that was in my house, she was OK with me shaving my face, arms, chest (before my breast grew) , groin everything except my legs hell I have even shaved my head without issue shave the legs and I might as well have stuck a knife in her back go figure... as for the kids well that's gonna be tough and every kid is different you'll just have to test the waters on that one...
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Genevieve Swann

My wife would help or shave my legs. No problem.

jamie lee

My wife is fine with me shaving my legs or chest, in fact she likes me better hairless ! When she feel stubble or sees hair she'll tell me to go shave.

when we went to a hotel for a weekend and she wanted us to go to the hot tub I didn't want to go for the fact someone would notice, and she said she didn't care what others thought and neither should I. we went and had a great time and no one seem to notice or said a thing.  ( I think I'll keep this gal around)

I also had the courage to wear short around and outside the house this year, and even when the neighbors came over nothing was ever said.

Jamie

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Eva Marie

Quote from: Nicky on November 16, 2009, 01:50:09 PM
How do you feel about that? Needing to be 'stealth'? It is good that you managed to talk to her. Well done! Just keep talking!

I'm actually OK with it. After all, i'm asking my wife to accept my situation, so I need to be sensitive to hers, even if her fears are (perhaps) unfounded. I think that as long as we communicate it'll all go a lot better.

I know that there are reasons some men shave, but this 15 year old is pretty darn quick and will most likely see right through any excuse that I may offer up  :) ........... which is why my wife has a concern. I can wait for a couple more years until she goes to college, and there are still lots of things to do and try out during that time. I'll stay busy  :D

Jamie & Genevieve - sounds like you both have the ideal situation!
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jesse

my wife dosnt have a problem with legs arms face its chest hair she dosnt want me to shave of course i do it anyway in our last discussion i told her i cant stand body hair it seams to have subdued the arguement fro now but we shall see
jessica
like a knife that cuts you the wound heals but them scars those scars remain
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Sandy

I was in gender jail for almost 14 years because my spouse told me I couldn't and never allowed any discussion about it.

I was hoping that someday she would come around.  She never did.  And when I started playing around with suicide she demanded I get therapy.  I got the courage to start my re-birth then and blew the doors off that jail.

Hopefully you won't be in that position.

-Sandy
Out of the darkness, into the light.
Following my bliss.
I am complete...
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Washu Chan

I have always shaved my legs and every other bit of body hair ever since I can remember,
my family is ok with it because it is just something that I have always done.

I suppose once something becomes routine people stop noticing it.
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Cindy

I think it is a bit of a cultural thing. A bit like having pierced ears. I shaved my legs one day. Wife saw and asked why. I said feels nicer. Never hid them. Wore shorts to the shops etc with her. No one. Repeat. No one. Has ever said anything to me, nor have I overheard any comment about my hairless legs. It's a total none issue. Lots of male athletes now body shave. Lots of none athlete guys do as well. It is increasingly common for hairy men to shave; Bears seem to be more of a Gay thing than that seen in straight guys now a days.

Most of our (Australian) Surf Life Savers (both M&F) BTW get rid of body hair. Never heard any one insult them. They would tear your arms off if you did.

So.
Strange world, yet again

Hugs
Cindy
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