GID causing other problems

[lauren3332]

Is it possible that my supposed GID could be causing me unconsciously to do bad at other things?  Even though I am at a period right now where I am not bothered by no being a girl, my grades in school are slipping and I get depressed rather easily these days, but it is not because I think about being Lauren.  Sometimes I get the idea that maybe I want my male self to fail sometimes.  I don't screw up on purpose.  Sometimes I wonder if I try to hard to make up for the fact that I am trans.  I have too many theories.  Sometimes I wonder if I think about being Lauren over and over because I am kind of neurotic and obssessibe about things.  Anyway Happy Thanksgiving Susan Forum.

[Bellaon7]

I wish I could blame every mistake I've made on GID, but even "normal" people can't do that. Try & pick your battles instead of them picking you. Well that sounded good until I put into words, Take control of your life by any means, ts/tg is the wild west, sounds romantic, but mostly it's a load of work just to live.   

[Robin.]

I'd say that it is hard to do anything at your best without being content with who you are both on the inside and the outside. Before I realized myself completly, I did not think I had anything to live for and so did little to apply myself. Not caring for who and what you are can definitely lead a person to be self-detramental.

[SusanKC]

You know, sometimes I wonder about that. If you have a battle inside over what gender you are, if it tears you up in varying degrees, if there is a female mind/soul in a male body, or a male mind/soul in a female body, how can it not affect how you perform in life. My female mind walks by a mirror and sees a male body every time. It can see a female soul behind the body, but how can there not be an at least low-grade war inside: "Out you damn girl. No, off me you damn boy!"

Does that call for some therapy? I'm not sure. I have fought it for many years. I have never held much stock in psychiatry, and view it as an obstacle to get around when I finally do go, only because it's required for the purpose of achieving what I fully believe is the correct course. The secret is not to let them know that. The best way to get a professional anything to work against you is to doubt the benefit and value of his profession. If you accept the value of therapy, I am sure it would be a benefit to you. If like me, you not only have a problem but a problem with therapy, maybe less so. And probably, I would most benefit from it.

But, in the end Lauren, you should always do as well as you can in whatever you are doing, whether as Lauren, or temporarily as _____. Because progress will benefit Lauren. Look in the mirror at the soul of Lauren behind whom ever, and promise to do best for her.

SusanKG

[K8]

Although intelligent (i.e., scored well on tests), I never did well in school.  I was always awkward socially.  It took me a long time to grow up.  Was that because of my gender discordance?  Perhaps, but I don't know. 

I think if you aren't comfortable in your own skin - aren't comfortable with who you are - it will be more difficult for you to accomplish things.  It's like there's a background battle you are waging, sapping your energy.  Sometimes it is so far in the background it isn't evident, but it is still there.

- Kate

[Janet_Girl]

I too went through somethings that were the results of my GID, and they were not good things.  But I am getting better, more open with people.  Which is a good result.

It gets better, trust me.  And it will for you.



Janet