Do any of you guys like other FTM's sexually?

[Elijah3291]

I thought that I wouldn't, because I like dicks, but I think I have realized that transguys are just as man as cis men.  Dick isn't that important, cause I would probably never have traditional sex anyway. Plus, I shouldn't think this way towards people, because I don't want them to think of me that way.  Like there is a gay guy who likes me now, but doesn't want to do anything because girl parts gross him out.

Where do you meet transguys anyway? Like, to date? I think it would be awesome to date someone who was going through the same thing you were.

[icontact]

Post-transition, post-top-surgery, and preferably without any strange clitoral growth, yeah. I'll be honest, I think the FtM body [like I just described] is the perfect body. No strange things sticking out in strange places. Just the person, as minimalist as possible.

[Alessandro]

Yeah absolutely.  I don't have 'traditional' sex either and anal sex is best in moderation     FtMs are brilliant, I would love to date one too.  I am attracted to male identified people, so even a non op FtM would be OK as far as I'm concerned!

I'd date you...shame there's a big ocean in the way  (and I'm pre-T)   

[Elijah3291]

I like cis men and trans men, so if I were single, another FTM would be fine by me. I'd prefer if he were post chest surgery, though.

I would prefer that too

[Kurzar]

Yes Tmen I am attracted to but I have to say I'm very cock addicted. I'm not looking for anyone so it's not something that matters.  I'm not attracted to girly things at all so Trans guys are nice in that respect.

[Miniar]

I'm pansexual...
Sex/Gender is not important.

And I've had "Play Time" with a "still in the closet to most ppl" ftm before.. so yes.

[Teknoir]

... preferably without any strange clitoral growth....

If you go after an FTM, that's part of the "package" 


As for myself, someone being an FTM wouldn't be a dealbreaker. Though I wouldn't specifically chase an FTM for their being trans. I've met some I like, some I wouldn't go near - just like any other group of people.

Where to meet them? There are trans dating sites around (but they say regarding dating on the internet - "the odds are good, but the goods are odd").

You could also go to places you think you'll find transmen - though going to support groups to try to pick up is kinda sleezy .

[Lachlann]

Nah. A pre-T or pre-op might have the stuff I'm attracted to but to me they're not girls, and it just because you have the junk doesn't mean I'm going to automatically get in your pants either.

[jmaxley]

I might, it really depends on the person.  FTM, MTF, cis-male, cis-female, gay, straight, bi...doesn't matter to me.  Guess that makes me a pansexual too.

[Silver]

I certainly wouldn't mind it. Not going to chase an FTM just because he is though. I guess I don't know for sure though, since I haven't really been in the situation before. It really would depend on the person.

An FTM would certainly not think of me as freaky because he's in the same boat. And there wouldn't be any uncomfortable "you're not putting that there!"

As for where to meet them, I have no idea.

[Arch]

God, I wish wish wish I could want to date a transguy. I know a couple of gay transguys who found each other. I envy them.

But "girl parts" really do gross me out. (I'm glad I don't have to look at mine. In fact, I wear a packer 23.5 hours a day now, and the contours just seem to be so right. The bulges fit my mental body map.)

Most FTMs have not had bottom surgery. I'm not sure I could be with an FTM even if he had a meta or phallo...I am in love with "born that way" penises--the way they look, the way they feel, the way they smell and taste, the way they respond. I don't know much about how the manufactured parts function in comparison.

I also like cismale bodies--the proportions are usually different from those of most FTMs.

I'm trying to be open-minded. I don't know if any gay cismale will ever accept me the way I am, and I don't know if I will ever be able to get bottom surgery.

Psychologically, I used to wonder if FTMs lacked that little "edge" that I find so attractive in cisgender men. I've come to the conclusion that some FTMs have that and some don't. So it's possible that I could fall in love with an FTM and figure out a way to be sexual with him, at least if he's had bottom surgery. If he hasn't...I don't think I could get used to that.

I said that I like penises that are "born that way," but that is actually a bit untrue. I can't deal with uncircumcised penises. Yet I think that circumcision is barbaric and unnecessary. I oppose inflicting that on infants.

Bundle of contradictions, that's me.

P.S. Have you considered FTM social sites or Craigslist? I can't vouch for either one...
Post Merge: December 30, 2009, 07:32:08 PM

Where to meet them? There are trans dating sites around (but they say regarding dating on the internet - "the odds are good, but the goods are odd").

That's a good one...I've never heard it before.

[Teknoir]

I said that I like penises that are "born that way," but that is actually a bit untrue. I can't deal with uncircumcised penises. Yet I think that circumcision is barbaric and unnecessary. I oppose inflicting that on infants.

I've heard that opinion quite a few times from people in the good ol' USA. Is circumcision really common over there or something?

[tekla]

I can't deal with uncircumcised penises. Yet I think that circumcision is barbaric and unnecessary. I oppose inflicting that on infants.

Please, pick one or the other and stick with it, no one can do both.

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[JonasCarminis]

do i like other FTMs sexually?  yes.  i dated a trans guy for about 10 months.  (broke up a while back) i like just about any body configuration sexually.  but gender wise, i usually lean towards the masculine end.  i wouldnt ever rule out anyone based on body configuration or gender identity.

[GamerJames]

As for myself, someone being an FTM wouldn't be a dealbreaker. Though I wouldn't specifically chase an FTM for their being trans. I've met some I like, some I wouldn't go near - just like any other group of people.

^This^

I guess I'm pansexual-ish... but I tend to be attracted to female bodies more than male bodies. Personality-wise I tend to be more attracted to people who are somewhere on the scale between "male" and "middle of the road". I'm not all that into girly girls emotionally, but I love their bodies... (Wow, I'm shallow). The thing is, even though emotionally I like guys/genderqueer/androgyne/masculine women, and I wish I could say that the inside is more important than the outside, honestly they're about even. Cuz I don't tend to sleep with people I can't at least have the potential to fall for, and I can't fall for someone I'm not also physically attracted to.

And if I dated a transguy, yeah he'd have a biologically female body, but he probably wouldn't want me to see it that way and enjoy it that way. Like... I really like boobs (a LOT), and most transguys wouldn't be cool with me treating their moobs like boobs. Understandably, cuz I don't like it either, but therein lies the rub.

So, I somehow need to find a non-op transguy who is totally cool with his biologically-female body and likes that I like it, but is still more androgynous-to-male personality-wise, AND of course he has to like what I have to offer too (i.e. he needs to be into guys at least enough to accept me as one, and okay enough with female parts to not get too squicky over what I currently have, but not so into female parts that he can't treat my bio-bits as their male equivalent, etc etc etc...). Or some shade of genderless/genderqueer/other person who has all those traits.

Geez, I'm difficult. 

[LordKAT]

Don't know, never met one.

[Walter]

I've dated cismen, ciswomen and now with a MtF. I'd be interested in dating a FtM if I ever got the chance. Would I like FtM's sexually though is something I haven't really thought about

[GnomeKid]

nope can't say I could ever see myself being attracted to an FTM
I can't see myself being attracted to any sort of man though.

I'm attracted to girls, and typically quite feminine girls at that.  Masculinity is not my cup of tea.

[Brynn]

Just like a woman.

Please, pick one or the other and stick with it, no one can do both.

Ouch. That came across as a little bit misogynistic.

In any case, you (generic "you") actually can get circumcision done at a later point in life. I'm hoping that won't get this thread too far off-topic, just thought I'd throw that in there.

To contribute to the main point of the thread...

Most likely not. Not because of the trans thing, but because of the man thing. I'm pretty much straight. I'm not close-minded because of it, just realistic about the fact that I am almost exclusively attracted to women. I wouldn't rule out anyone I really connected with solely based on gender identity or expression, or the plumbing down below. It's just not too likely to happen, in my experience.
Post Merge: December 31, 2009, 02:18:31 AM

And if I dated a transguy, yeah he'd have a biologically female body, but he probably wouldn't want me to see it that way and enjoy it that way. Like... I really like boobs (a LOT), and most transguys wouldn't be cool with me treating their moobs like boobs. Understandably, cuz I don't like it either, but therein lies the rub.

So, I somehow need to find a non-op transguy who is totally cool with his biologically-female body and likes that I like it, but is still more androgynous-to-male personality-wise, AND of course he has to like what I have to offer too (i.e. he needs to be into guys at least enough to accept me as one, and okay enough with female parts to not get too squicky over what I currently have, but not so into female parts that he can't treat my bio-bits as their male equivalent, etc etc etc...). Or some shade of genderless/genderqueer/other person who has all those traits.

Geez, I'm difficult. 

Lol. Perhaps. But you're also very honest about it all.

[Arch]

I can't deal with uncircumcised penises. Yet I think that circumcision is barbaric and unnecessary. I oppose inflicting that on infants.

Just like a woman.

Please, pick one or the other and stick with it, no one can do both.

Tekla, if you had been sexually molested as a little kid by a guy with an uncut dick, you might also feel a little conflicted about them. And I've talked to gay men who oppose circumcision but much prefer to have sex with uncut guys. I guess they're just like women too, eh?