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Guilt tripped into dating someone?

Started by inoutallabout, January 02, 2010, 08:43:21 PM

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inoutallabout

Hey all, none of whom I know,

I would pose a question, with a little background.  Someone who swore to me dozens of times that his love for me was innocent and has openly proclaimed his truest, dearest love for me.  His love for me is so strong that it would drive us apart if it remained unrequited, a terrible truth that would rip us both to bits.  So, I knew I would lose someone I love if I went down a path of more than platonic, but the pain if I didn't raise the bar it would be an immediate consequence.

He's the man who I thought was the father I'd never had, just that in spirit per say, like a late adoption of the terms and being part of a family.  I guess I thought I had found a man without ulterior motives, but I was mistaken.

He's 54 and overweight, and I'm barely an adult and quite slim.  And?  Now I'm dating him, although it may as well be over already.

Is it worth doing anything to make the ones you love happy?  Or, am I truly such an irrational fool?

I simply wish to find anything that might console me towards thinking something about this isn't very upsetting.
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tekla

Hey, if it wasn't for guilt and pity I'd have never dated.
FIGHT APATHY!, or don't...
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Alyssa M.

WTF is up with Jungfrauen like you falling all over old men? Or, should I say, giving in to their creepy advances? And if you're "barely an adult" -- I'm guessing that you're no more than 27, i.e., no more than his age -- then 54 is indeed old by comparison, even if it's not exactly geriatric. I don't really get what's going on here, but it's sketchy as hell, whatever it is. Respect yourself and date someone who you don't think of as your dad -- ew, gross -- and has motives you wouldn't describe as "ulterior."

I was really hoping this was a case of someone setting you up, rather than some creepy old dude putting the creepy old moves on you. Frankly, I was hoping it was something more like this:



Because that would be awesome. Lane Myer and Joanne Greenwald are my heroes. ;D
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another.

   - Anatole France
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inoutallabout

Meh.  I got emotional.  I'm seeing true colors, so I'm bailing out.
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AweSAM!

That's my entire dating life. No wonder no 'relationships' of mine lasted longer than 4 days!