Passing and Age

[Adam]

Do any of you other guys have this problem where you pass, but you look much younger then what you actually are?

I attend college as a guy and haven't told any of my classmates that I'm trans. The new term started today and I got paired up with a new lab partner. After we introduced ourselves, he asked me how old I was. I told him I'd be turning 20 at then end of the month and he said I didn't look it.

And then there was an incident back in September when I went to a welcome barbecue at my college residence. One of the guys I talked to there asked me if I was that 16 year old he had heard about...

Sometimes I wish that I could just pass and look (and sound) like a guy my age. Well hopefully my endo will give me my T prescription at the end of April like planned, so I can finally start appearing my age.

[Nero]

Yes. I'm 30 going on 13. Literally.  :laugh:People think I'm early teens. I get referred to as a boy.  Oh well, it'll pass as T continues to work its magic. Hopefully.

[Adio]

All the time.  Before I got on T (and even now, since it hasn't been that long), I get told I look anywhere between 13 and 16.  With people that don't know me as trans and know me as male, I'm usually able to chalk it up to good genetics (which is true) or something to that effect.

[myles]

Most people think I am between 20-22, I am really 40.
Myles

[Brynn]

That's how it is with most pre-T trans guys. I look like I'm around a freshman or sophomore in high school... I'm a sophomore in college.

Good luck getting ahold of that T prescription and (hopefully) soon looking more like your age!

[myles]

This is actually  my after T age issue. Before people thought I was young but more along the lines of 30.I am thinking since this is my first year of T  (10 months) I am in the teenage stage and as soon as I get out of this I will start to look closer to my actual age.
Myles

[Lachlann]

I don't mind looking on the youngish side. Just not like... 15. 

[Nero]

This is actually  my after T age issue. Before people thought I was young but more along the lines of 30.I am thinking since this is my first year of T  (10 months) I am in the teenage stage and as soon as I get out of this I will start to look closer to my actual age.
Myles

Me too. I'm actually about 8 or 9 months on T. Of course I have always looked about a decade younger than my actual age, people thinking I was a teen girl well into my 20s. And I never passed (except from a distance) before T. So, YMMV.

[Adam]

And I never passed (except from a distance) before T. So, YMMV.

So, do you pass now then?

[Chamillion]

Yep I think this happens to every trans guy.  It can get frustrating sometimes.  I was at my school with some friends smoking a cig and some guy taking pictures came up to take our pic.  He looked at me and was just like "Are you old enough to be smoking? How old are you, 10, 11?"  Yeah dude, I'm 11 years old but I hang out at this college with all of my friends who are 19 years old.

That's the youngest someone has said though and I think he was exaggerating.  Before T I passed as like 14.  Now I can get maybe 17, usually 16 tho.  I'll be 20 in a month

[Nero]

So, do you pass now then?

Starting to. For the first time in my life. Not consistently. My experience seems to be rare though.

[owl]

apparently i look 14, haha

[Silver]

Well I'm pretty sure I'll still look 15 until I get on T. So it's not too far off but I'm moving away from that age and we'll see how long it takes for it to be a problem. Hoping I don't feminise more either.

[Arch]

I think it's particularly irritating for trans guys who are already young--say, twenties--because they aren't perceived as even being adults. But I'll bet that at your age you'll soon catch up with your peers.

I've got my fingers crossed for a speedy T prescription.

[sneakersjay]

Before transition people always thought I looked much younger than I am.  I'm 48 but most pegged me mid-late 30s.  Now I think I look at least 40 because I let my hair go gray.

Jay

[Christo]

think I look my age. I'm 25 but they still ask me for i.d. when we go out  so I dunno.

[Arch]

My father looked very young when he was my age. A few years ago, when I was 44 (pre-transition), my students thought I was in my late twenties. Now, almost a year into transition, I'm habitually pegged as being ten to fifteen years younger than I am; most people think I am in my thirties. I put it down to good genes, staying out of the sun, and being trans. I've only been on T for eleven months, and I still have that boyish androgynous look; the other night, the guys were talking about my "baby face."

It's weird. I see myself in the mirror and think, "Gee, I'm really starting to look my age." But the only people who have even come close to guessing my true age are a couple of trans guys who are accustomed to meeting other trans guys who look much younger than they are. They simply assumed that if I looked thirtyish, I must really be fortyish.

I've been frozen for so long that I actually feel as if I'm much younger than I am. Do any of you younger guys feel that way?

[Silver]

I've been frozen for so long that I actually feel as if I'm much younger than I am. Do any of you younger guys feel that way?

Probably my imagination, but as my friends continue to develop I seem to be stalled at just about fifteen or so. I feel left behind.

[Arch]

Probably my imagination, but as my friends continue to develop I seem to be stalled at just about fifteen or so. I feel left behind.

Yeah, now I remember seeing a recent thread along these lines. I'll hunt it up and read it.

[Hazard "AJ"]

I was 22 yeaterday and My sisters friend whos 14 think i was 18. But most people think im 14/15 It dose bother me, But i look at it like this. most people think that we r younger cuz its like we havent started puberty yet, most men r age have deep vioice faceul hair ect, so u cant really expect people to think u are the age u say,