I recognize disdwarf is new and I recognize the point of her question without any malice. The question was asked in an honest way and rephrased in most appropriate language. Thank you.
To answer your question, I was a late bloomer and did not transition until I was in my 50's. My physician at the time, bless him, called me "54 years young".
I have two adult daughters and two wonderful grandchildren.
I never really "hated" my genitalia until very late in my pre-op life. But it did work, and shot live ammunition. But throughout my life I felt that it was ugly and I tucked for most of my adult life. I felt, and still feel, that having your major hormone and reproductive glands on the outside of the body was a very poor design. I felt women were much more streamlined with everything inside the body where it belongs.
My sex life, both single and with partners was satisfying. After all an orgasm is a physical process designed to stimulate the pleasure centers of the brain. Much like other sensations it is automatic. I never enjoyed having the erection, but the orgasm was pleasurable. My surgeon, Dr McGinn, was quite specific about the need for pre-op orgasms to aid the brain in establishing the new nerve stimulations post-op. Her statement was that SRS did not cure sexual dysfunction.
I was in denial about my transsexual nature for most of my life. I felt that I was a cross-dresser, a man with an outrageous hobby. Growing up, I knew I wasn't a transsexual, because I saw that transsexuals became hookers, strippers and drug addicts. This was much, much, before the internet. Your thumbnail description about my condition, as being a faux-male was dead on for me.
When came out of denial and I did realize that I was a woman with a transsexual condition, it hit me like a thunderbolt. It was an earthquake. I knew in that instant that my life as it was up to that point was over. I went through the five stages of grief. It was as powerful as being told that I had terminal cancer.
I transitioned relatively quickly. See my blog "Sandy's Transition" for a blow by blow description.
BTW: Welcome to the forum, disdwarf. Feel free to ask any question you like, that is why we are here. And feel free to PM me if you have anything else you might want to discuss.
-Sandy
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