Welcome to Susan's, PaulyD (or LG

).
There's a lot of good information and good people here. Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common. Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.
Be sure to look under the Announcements heading. There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours: "Site Terms of Service and Rules to Live By", "Standard Terms and Definitions", and "Post Ranks". Look through the other stuff there, too.
I would guess you have found the Significant Other section by now.
This
is confusing. I sometimes think it is harder on those around us - like you - than those who are going through it. I am transitioning to become whole. It is something I am doing for myself so that I can become myself. But I am also dragging along all my friends and family and acquaintances whether they like it or not.

I hope you find answers and support here - that's why we're here.
Happy exploring.

- Kate