Am I the only one?

[Silver]

But I will also say, with the topic at hand, if you can stand the thought of using a Share, you will get some pretty good sensations from that, too.

Jay

I don't know, a pump sounds painful and I'm skeptical about it. As for the share, I don't like having things in there. Maybe I'll get over it. We shall see, huh?

[Radar]

When your junk grows on T, try a pump.  Seriously. Your junk gets huge (compared to what it was and is without pumping). About the size of a thick thumb, though maybe shorter because of the way its attached. With that and a bit of lube, and a bit of imagination, a hand or a sleeve, you can get a pretty darn good idea of what it would feel like to actually have PIV sex with someone. And all I can say is that (for me!) it feels way better than being on the receiving end of PIV sex.

I can also vouch for this. You can really get alot of girth too pumping. It's like how sex should have always been for me. Such a relief.
Post Merge: February 16, 2010, 07:29:22 PM

I don't know, a pump sounds painful and I'm skeptical about it.

If you use it correctly it really doesn't hurt. It gets uncomfortable when the cylinder becomes too small, but then you just go up in size*.


*You start out with the nipple pump cylinders first which are much smaller.

[Carson]

I plan on pumping as soon as I get a bit more natural growth from T(its only been 6 weeks) I have everything I need to make my own pump. I have heard nothing but good things as long as you do it safely. As for the share I would never do it just because that hole i'm not supposed to have does nothing for me pleasure wise. But I have never had a whole lot of bottom dysphoria, the way I see it, I'm a man, I have the genitals that I have, therefore my genitals must be manly. Would I like to have a giant penis? Yes, but that likely wouldn't have happened anyway even if I had been born a biological male.

[sneakersjay]

I will say this about the Share: It doesn't do anything to 'pleasure' that hole; what it does is position the shaft in the proper location to pleasure your partner, and pleasure YOUR JUNK (not the hole).

Hard to explain if you've never used the hole.  PIV sex never did anything for me (kinda boring, actually!)  LOL even with some really hot guys (as I was in the wrong role!).


Jay

[LordKAT]

Thanks for sharing Jay. You gave some interesting information. That would at least take care of the immediate...needs.

Problem still remains, (probably just in my mind) of how to find someone who can accept the differences that come with being with me. One night internet dating does not sound like something I could be comfortable with and seems scary to even try.

[Al James]

Guess i cheated cos I've always left telling people I'm trans until we're actually in a relationship. I have a habit of falling for straight women (which when your out as a lesbian gets slightly confusing). Anyway they've got to know me and slept with me (with all my hang ups and what i won't let them do to me) before I've told them. They have all been 100% behind me-it hasn't been an issue in any of the break ups. Maybe i've just been lucky and found women who are bi sexual or juast been lucky and found women that are willing to look past the presentation to the person underneath

[LordKAT]

I wonder if being younger or better looking helps. I'm an old good year blimp on steroids.

[Al James]

Don't think the age or the looks really matter. I've been an overweight spotty **** for more years than i want to remember - i think its the way you treat them. I've always tried to act like a gentleman-out of the bedroom at least and you will find women who really appreciate that

[Jay]

I feel the exact same way. It sucks big time. I guess it doesn't really affect me much at the moment as I have been single for a while now. But I do definetly know how you feel.

Thats why for me bottom surgery is a must.

Jay

[sneakersjay]

Thanks for sharing Jay. You gave some interesting information. That would at least take care of the immediate...needs.

Problem still remains, (probably just in my mind) of how to find someone who can accept the differences that come with being with me. One night internet dating does not sound like something I could be comfortable with and seems scary to even try.

Dude, I hear ya!  I haven't had sex with a real live person in 5 years, LOL.  Let's just say I'm very good at having sex with myself.... and all these toys.  Hey, ya gotta do what ya gotta do!  Cuz, you're right, a guy has needs!!

TMI TMI  LOL
Jay

[Karridoll]

Guys, I can't pretend to know what you are going through. I will only speak from my experiences. My partner is ftm. We are going through this process together. I am supportive, as many other men or woman in your future will be. As for sex I am quite satisfied, as I hope he is ;-). Even a bio man and woman may have difficulties in this department. These hurdles will only make you a more attentive lover. That's a blessing for your partners if you look at it that way. Good luck to you all... I think you're wonderfully strong men and that is incredibly attractive. Xoxo

[GamerJames]

I haven't had much problem with sex in previous relationships, as all of them were begun before I'd come out as trans. That being said, even then, I still hated not having a "real" penis (don't mean to disparage for anyone else's equipment, just that what I had, and what props I could use, just didn't feel real enough *for me*). There's this weird primal need to thrust and penetrate that is partially sated by using toys, yes, but it just isn't enough. And now that I'm single, I'm wondering "how do I find someone that's okay with the equipment I have, and still sees me as a guy". And even then, I worry that as supportive and cool with it as they possibly could be, what if it's still not enough for me, because I don't have a penis? I know that it shouldn't be the be all and end all (and it's not, really) but it is a huge part of sexual identity (not gender identity, but sexual identity).