whats it all about?

[Georgina]

Twelve months or so ago I was a very passable crossdresser,that enjoyed all things femm,from dressing,makeup,shaving,plucking,going out,etc.etc.I was even in a relationship with a male who I enjoyed company with at least twice a week. Then,all of a sudden,I purged everything,even my man. [there was no relationship problem at all,in fact I loved being the female for my man].Now the urgent need to dress is back with a vengence, going back to where I was has hit me and I am wondering,have I taken 2 steps back and 1 step forward,for now I will have to buy all that gear again,and start afresh,is it worth it etc. These questions keep flooding my brain right now,is it normal behaviour,I wonder! I so want to start again,am I doing the right thing. : Georgina.

[Flan]

The real question is why purge, it (cd'ing) is just another way of being yourself.

Dumping everything because of fear of what some ignoranus thinks of something that doesn't affect them *one bit*, puts a stigma to an otherwise harmless activity.

Buy stuff, feel bad, dump, buy, shame, dump...

Crossdressing may thumbed down by some in society, but that's their problem they can't enjoy themselves once in a while.
Go enjoy yourself.

[Autumn]

Purging is a very common thing among CD/TG people. Hell, I purged toys several times out of shame, back when I was too young to have a female wardrobe. Luckily, by the time I established that, I was spiraling towards transition.

It's a factor of shame and society. It's heartbreaking. A lot of people do it, there are threads here.

Maybe you can reconnect with him?

[Georgina]

   Thanks Autumn,after reading your reply I have shaved myself once again,and plucked my eyebrows, I had forgotten how wonderful it feels,and what a mistake I have made. I will probably build up my wardrobe slowly over time until I am back to where I was. The underware being the most impotant part of my dressing means I will be taking my time. After that I am sure I will be my old self once again! I hope so. Hugs Georgina.

[pamshaw]

Purging is SOP for transgendered people. I did it many times hoping my GID would go away; it did not. I wasted a lot of money throwing away very nice clothes and wigs. Fortunately now that I have accepted my true self and my body is full of estrogen and devoid of T I have a very nice collection of all things feminine. I am full time and no longer even think about purging. Actually that is not quite true; three months ago I did purge. It felt great to donate all my male clothing to the thrift store. Male clothes are really ugly.

Pam

[GingerCD]

I have purged quite a few times but, I have decided to build a collection slowly, accepting who I really am. The big test for me was shaving my chest. It has not gone great but it is a start. I have determined that my legs are much more cooperative than my chest. It doesn't seem to want to let go. I cycle a lot and have been shaving my legs for nearly a year. I am still stumped on the wigs, though. I want to be sure that what I get fits my facial profile. However, it is coming along. I have successfully sized my dresses, jeans and tops. Even a couple of cute skirts. Shoes turned out better than expected. I am definitely on my way.

[Janet_Girl]

@ Ginger  Find a good wig shop.  They are very helpful and most are use to dealing with the transgendered community.

@ Georgina  I find that when rebuilding a wardrobe, Goodwill is a great place to restart for basics.  Tops, skirts, dresses, jeans.

[justmeinoz]

I am still sorting out where I fit in all this, but have realised that I probably will never purge because I have the opposite problem- I horde. Does anyone else have this problem?
I have looked around the study here,  and seen things on shelves that caused me to think "why on earth did I keep that?". Anything I don't want now will just get put away,"in case I need it."
As my son is now working in a shoe shop, I can see major storage problems looming!!

[Jasmine.m]

This is an interesting phenomenon among CD's, although I can't say that I've ever been a part of it. For some reason, I have never purged. I just never had the desire or need to. In fact, I still have the first pair of girls jeans I ever bought, although they're like 12 years old and waaaaay to big for me now. Hopefully I'll never fit in them again, but for some reason... I just can't bring myself to toss them out.

Not that I don't occasionally go through my stuff and donate it if it's old or totally out of style or just doesn't fit. Most (read: nearly all) of my clothes are andro girls clothes, so I'm pretty much dressed every day and my closet is like full to the max. Still, I've never had the desire to purge, I never have purged and I don't think I ever will. Maybe I'm just to frugal!!

[Georgina]

HI Jasmine,I didnt think I would ever purge,especially when I was in a relationship that was so so good. I just decided that,for some unknown reason to me that I had to do it. I do wish I knew the whys though. But I know now how much I have missed everything about being the person I was,[and still am I am sure] so far I have felt the wonderful feel of being shaved and have bought myself a beautiful pair of stockings and a garter belt,slowly but slowly I am feeling much better about my decision to start all over again. The urge to dress is so strong despite me feeling silly on why I purged in the first place.
With eyes wide open I can only look forward to the wonderful world of crossdressing again and what I know it brings,of that I am sure,at least I am not beginning with aprehention.
                                                                        Hugs Georgina.

[Veronica Morph]

Hi to all, I threw away my whole collection only once, it included lots of nylons and very nice stockings, high heels even a pair of 6inch white pointy pumps, miniskirts, dresses and underwear from VS, I can recall my feeling during those days, but i can say i was trying understand my self and maybe if i will return to dress i could find again everything back again and new, i never felt like if I lost something, in fact i could understand that I could enjoy the garments and the shoes before and those times were priceless, I could purchase again my hose, my boots, my pumps, makeup etc, but my good moments, were there and never be forgotten, then after a year or so i came back and started a new collection, the problem is that because i hold this side of my self hidden and just for me, i cannot keep much stuff, but anyway  manage to make a collection of more than 20 p of boots, and 8p of pumps, plus many outfits, most of them office executive miniskirt w coat, and other sexy items such as hose, stockings, corsets, bras, etc,all of that is packed in 5 suitcases at home , my family think is part of my office stuff so no one goes in there.
I always think that one day those things will be dumped again, therefore i don't keep feeling for such things, i know is a fortune in  money but the excitement of getting them back new and wear again and make the collection again is also fun, we shouldn't be attached to those things, only attached to the feeling of need to dress and get a sexy shoe or hose etc