What have you lost due to transition?‏

[Kaori]

Money - and I've got a lot more to lose.
A few friends, but they were not close friends.
The ability to join friends for spontaneous outings in less than 2 hours of prep/powder/primp.
The freedom to jog shirtless.
My job, because of the lack of laws in the state I am now moving out of, and my previous employers inability to decide which restroom I can use.  Not to mention the loss of safety while using the mens room.

The ability to carry anything more than my backpack and a beer up the flights of stairs to my apartment (yes, while sober).
I am unable to join company on the patio this winter without wearing my "party hats".
The relaxing joy of sleeping on my stomach... it's just not relaxing at this point.
The guiltless enjoyment of fried chicken, french fries and ice cream in order to fit into a size 8 (well, to be honest, I'm doing it for health too not just figure).

And of course, male privilege.

The desire to continue martial arts.  Yoga seems to be taking over.
A medication free body.
The ability to resist sappy, romantic comedies.
The ability to cough deeply in publicly - I can sneeze and sound like a girl, but my coughs need a LOT of work.

The freedom to scratch in public at times, in trade for adjusting my bra.
The ease to intimidate - if I scowl or stare at someone now, they just say "Oh how cute... she's mad!"

I'll stop for now.   

[pretty pauline]

Male privilege, my relationship with my Father and 3brothers changed, they treat me different, they think my brain is smaller lol because Im now a woman.
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[pamshaw]

I lost a wife and a few right wing friends. I also lost the insecurity I felt as a small feminine male as well as my constant feeling of being on edge because I tried to live successfully as a man when I was totally female inside. I am almost there now and I am very much at peace. In a little while when I stand in front of the mirror and see my new vagina I will be completely happy. In my mind there was nothing good about being physically male.

Pam

[K8]

The ability to resist sappy, romantic comedies.

I never was able to resist them, but at least before I didn't get all teary when watching them.   It can get a little embarassing when I get all snuffly watching a movie I've seen 100 times.

- Kate

[Janet_Girl]

I lose a wife who I really did love and a beautiful home.

A few friends, but I gain more friends because of transition.

And of course the all important male privilege, which I was never comfortable with anyway.

[BunnyBee]

The ability to grope random men.

lol.

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There is nothing I've lost that didn't need to be culled.

I've lost a broken life in exchange for one that's mended.  I feel like I made out okay in the deal.

[Butterfly]

I lost what I never was & retrieved what I'd always been.

[JessicaF1971]

At first: Job, kids, house, Wife...
But hey I got myself, and that is priceless.

The kids and wife will come around in time I am sure.
Getting fired was probably a great career move for me anyway, heck I am moving to China, and that will be great for my resume.
Maybe my wife will sell the house and I can get at least half of the money if she sells it in 5 years.
Could be worse, just look at most of these stories.

[Jeannette]

Nothing that is worth mentioning.

[Ellieka]

Lost:
My marriage
My home
My family
My car
My job
Many "friends"

My rotten attitude
My insecurity

I'd do it all again in a heart beat.

[ddone]

Lost:
My marriage
My home
My family
My car
My job
Many "friends"

My rotten attitude
My insecurity

I'd do it all again in a heart beat.

Did u regret ur transition?

[Alainaluvsu]

My male privilege.

That's about it.

[JLT1]

I have lost nothing meaningful but gained everything that has meaning.

[PHXGiRL]

Nothing. Still have all my friends, family, house, car, career, and most importantly my daughter.

Instead of losing things I've gained things. More true friends, the freedom to be me, no more pressure to pretend, the list is long!

[kelly_aus]

I have lost nothing meaningful but gained everything that has meaning.

This sums it up for me too..

[MaidofOrleans]

Some serious thread necromancy going on here...

[Rita]

Rise from your grave!


Nothing really negative has occurred thus far.  Certain realities kick in.

[Jillieann Rose]

Well 3 years has passed since my last post on this thread.
It may be a resurrected topic but it is a good one.
I am now full time.

I have lost:
My marriage but we are still friendly.
She was the beard winner so most of my income.
My retirement.
My home
My family, sisters will not even talk to me.
Many "friends"

But I have also gained much.
Positive self-esteem/self-confidence.
Joy and peace.
Real friends.
A future.
New name.


I love life now and would have transition sooner if I would have known this would be my future.

Hugs,
Jillieann

[big kim]

Lost a crap job,my best friend but he was a racist homophobe who pissed in the fireplace and put his cigarettes out in fried eggs.A violent shoplifting partner with an alcohol problem.My tolerance to alcohol and the need to get wasted on speed,weed and booze.going bald and shaving.My self hatred.My eating disorder and self harm
Gained,confidence,more interests,become more caring and sensitive.Weight!

[ddone]

Nothing. Still have all my friends, family, house, car, career, and most importantly my daughter.

Instead of losing things I've gained things. More true friends, the freedom to be me, no more pressure to pretend, the list is long!

Where is your wife?