What's your sexual preference & has it always been that way? (girls' edition)

[pamshaw]

I always thought I was only attracted to females but HRT and transition has changed things. I started feeling attraction to a pre op TS and started having sex in the submissive role. Soon I was feeling attracted to men and now I thoroughly enjoy being a submissive female with a man. I guess this is because I always had those feelings but supressed them. I have completely accepted that I am a female so being with a man is natural.

Pam

[Flan]

I suppose I'm pan, but I prefer female identified partners. (either genetic or in transition)
(I wouldn't mind a guy in transition, can always chose a new strapon when things get boring)

I used to be les exclusive, although (as pan) I still can't see myself with a cismale, too many azzholes make for bad impressions for the rest of them.

[Jeannette]

I'm straight & that fact has always been constant.  I dated 2 girls in high school but it was mostly due to peer pressure & my own denial.  It was so awkward.  Honestly, girls have never done it for me.  I always saw them as best friends with whom I could be a girl myself but nothing else.  Blokes, on the other hand, are adorable.  They're the only ones that can give me butterflies in my stomach & make my heart beat faster.

[K8]

When I was pretending to be a man and thought of myself as a male cross-dresser (or as a gay man who was unfortunately attracted only to women ), women would give me that visceral reaction of sexual attraction.  I never met Mr Right or even Mr OK-for-a night.

For some reason, once on HRT and living as a woman and finally having realized I really am a woman under all those layers of socialization, I still love women but feel no sexual attraction to them.  And now I have fantasies about men and have even met a few that made my knees weak and my insides churn nicely.

- Kate

[Keroppi]

When I was a boy, I was attracted only to girls. Sure, they were mostly masculine girls, but only girls. Now, I'm still attracted to females, though have been spending the majority of the time thinking "I want that body / those clothes", rather than "oh she's hot and I want to have sex with her". However, nowadays most of my fantasy is sex with males. I guess that put me down as socially I'm lesbian, but am looking to experience with men when I have the right parts.

[Asfsd4214]

I'm able to appreciate sexual attractiveness in both sexes, but I exclusively want relationships with men. Prior to beginning transition I felt I wanted relationships with women as part of the role I was playing, but my fantasies would invariably be of relationships with men.

Now that I've stopped trying to play the guy role, I'm just happy accepting my sense of heterosexuality which is ironically a lot more normal when taken from a female perspective than it was from a male one.

[Starscrash]

I honestly don't know how to identify my sexuality.  There are certain things about guys that can really get me going; the smell, the smile, the dangly bits.  Unfortunately, there are some things that really do the opposite though.  Muscles and body hair are a no go for me, and they kind of come with the package.  Whenever I watch porn though (rarely), I imagine myself as the woman being taken by the man, and it works for me.
That said, I'm definitely attracted to women.  There's just an innate interest there.  I never meet a guy in real life and think "hey, I'd like to get to know him better," but I do with women.

[Janet_Girl]

When I was in the disguise of a male, I played the straight card.  Meaning attracted to women, but I did have a couple of encounters with men.  I never viewed myself as gay, nor do I view myself as Lesbian or Bi.

As a woman I am attracted to men.  Does this mean that I will never have a female lover or SO?  No because one never knows.  It really depends on the person.

[pretty pauline]

I started transition at 16 so I don't really know much about what preference I had, all I know into transition and hormones and when my transition was complete, all I wanted was to be with a man, a strong man to hold caress and protect me, look after me, I love to be held by a guy and feel secure, Im am a straight hetrosexual woman, I love the way a man excepts me as a woman, I can never see myself in a sexual relationship with another woman, Im now a woman, it feels so right and natural for me to be with a man, I now have the right equipment for a full sexual relationship with the man of my dreams.
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[Carlita]

I'm able to appreciate sexual attractiveness in both sexes, but I exclusively want relationships with men. Prior to beginning transition I felt I wanted relationships with women as part of the role I was playing, but my fantasies would invariably be of relationships with men.

Now that I've stopped trying to play the guy role, I'm just happy accepting my sense of heterosexuality which is ironically a lot more normal when taken from a female perspective than it was from a
male one.

I can't say for sure how this is going to pan out, but I TOTALLY relate to everything you just said! So thankyou for saying it for me!

[Butterfly]

Re: What's your sexual preference & has it always been that way?

Heterosexual & yes it's always been that way. ~smile~

[Laura91]

This may sound strange but I didn't have a sexual preference until my late 20s/early 30s. When people would ask me about my sexual preference I would always say "I'm not thinking about that. Once I have things sorted out then I will think about it". I guess no one bothered to read between the lines and figure out what I meant.

Once I sat down and gave this some serious thought things came together pretty quickly. I remember thinking to myself "what if I was with a genetic male in a romantic relationship?". Once I thought that, my stomach rolled and rolled and I felt like I was going to be sick, so that was a pretty obvious signal that a relationship of that type wouldn't work. When I looked at things from the other side of the coin it made more sense and that's when I decided that if I were to be in any relationship it would have to be a lesbian one.

[Dana_W]

From a pretty early age I knew I was bisexual. But I also knew that the LAST thing I wanted was to be with a guy who saw ME as a guy. That made it easy not to act on any interest in guys, even as some older gay men tried to seduce me. So half of my bisexuality was ruled out in practice on a technicality for most of my life.

As I'm transitioning I am still pretty much the same. If I was single (and I'm not) I would probably pursue a relationship with a guy, but a lot of that is to satisfy curiosity because I've never gotten to be THE woman in a relationship. But I would put my odds at about 50/50 as to which sex any long term partner would turn out to be.

I like them both. I like them a little differently, but it's just not that easy to say I like one more than the other. I don't know how you heteros do it. 

[tgirljuliewilson]

for a while, I used to think of myself as a lesbian trapped in a male body....

then, in my early twenties, I realized that the idea of a man putting his penis into my ass was absolutely revolting, but the idea of a man putting his penis into my vagina was absolutely intoxicating.

I worshiped the female body for years and years, because I wanted one.  I didn't want to be a guy pretending to be a woman, I wanted to be a woman in my own right.

so I guess my answer is hetero, but from my chosen gender and not the original plumbing.....

[MICHELLE192]

At first I was drawn to guys, first experience was with a guy.  I was set up with a girl to make my parents happy I guess, but she was bi-sexual.  Then I started to notice the emotional connections being able to show effection to each other outside of the bedroom unlike with the guys.  I found out girls can be like guys sexually with the right toys.  I do still have trouble doing oral with girls that I prefer to do with a guy, but I do it for my partner when she wants me to.  The other thing is not knowing when she climaxed wondering if she faked it but with guys it is easy to know when they are finished.  We both have the desire to please the other and spend some time asking afterwards if it was enough.  Yes my sexual preference has remained the same the gender of my partners changed there is more to love then sex. 

[Chloe]

so I guess my answer is hetero, but from my chosen gender and not the original plumbing.....

Surprize to me! So "Normal" really isn't so bad afterall! To judge from majority responses here it appears *in a perfect world* "the guy preference" is finally(?) winning out hands down! Could it be they indeed fulfill in us that obvious something we've felt totally lacking all along?

lol *female aggression* is certainly no substitute for an attentive & caring insistent Male: don't care how you cut it in my book the "sense of security needs trust & loyalties" are definately tremendously different!

Definition of preference? Once one disengages MIND then NATURAL BODY SIGNALS are eventually allowed to take over!

[Stealthgrrl]

I'm similar to many who have posted already but also dissimilar in my way. I have always been attracted to females. In my previous life, I had no attraction whatever to men, but my problem was that women expected me to behave as a male, which was mindbending torture. At least in this one area I have always been very clear that I am female and nothing but.

Since transition, I see men differently and occasionally really like one in an emotional sense, but the physical side is still nuthin', sugar pea. I am still strongly and happily attracted to females.

I had been afraid of two things in transitioning: one was that my romantic life might be over. Ha! The reality has been that, because I am now living and being preceived as my real self, my romantic life has been much more active than it ever was before. My other fear had been that I would lose my attraction to women (adoration, really). That would have been a primal piece of myself to lose, but there again, no worries. Yay!

It has always been femaleness that draws me--I hesitate to say "femininity" because that implies a whole set of behaviors--and I can be very attracted even to a strongly female-identified genetic male.

The one thing that IS very changed for me is that I find a far greater range of women attractive. I think this is because I "see" other women better than before, and so see their beauty from a deeper place.

[Dorothy]

Before GRS I didn't want to think about the sexual attraction business.  The idea of me being a lesbian with a penis disgusted me.  The idea of being seen as a bloke by another bloke disgusted me as well.  The whole idea of being a woman with a dick was disgusting to me so I kinda became asexual.  I didn't know how people were gonna react either.  See, to people, lesbians don't have penises & neither do straight women.  If I'd chosen to be with blokes or if I'd chosen to be with girls, would they have seen me as a woman?  Would they have seen me as a freak? or would they have seen me as a fetish?  I dunno & I didn't want to find out the hard way so I decided to wait until I was post-operational to have any kinda sexual contact.

As a post-operational woman I've found out I'm sexually attracted to blokes so I guess that makes me hetero. 

[Northern Jane]

When I was young (well after puberty!) I was attracted to boys for sure but it was the 1960's and nobody knew anything about transsexualism so I really downplayed the sexuality part of it - it was important that the medical folks understood it was about who I felt I was and not about who I was attracted to. I had a few encounters with boys through my teens but I  never told anyone.

When SRS/transition became possible (1974) and I was finally able to 'exercise my sexuality' in a way that felt right to me, OH YEA! Absolutely straight! A few years later, when I became involved with another woman, it really shook me up but I came to realize that it wasn't so much about the other person as it was about being comfortable at at home with my own sexuality. There were a few women through the years but I am predominantly straight and definitely get hotter with a man LOL!

[Natasha]

Inspired by  https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,72609.0.html


I know there are many threads about sexual orientation but the bolded words caught my eye.  What's your sexual preference & has it always been that way?

interesting thread but what's been your experience?

as they say..quid pro quo.