Straight guys kissing me

[Dana Lane]

This has been an incredibly interesting week for me. This week I kissed two straight guys and one blew me a kiss. I apologize in advance that this may be a bit long.

I present as a female (do not pass, however and don't wear skirts) 24/7. I am not 'full time' yet but am working on that.

Tuesday night I was at my favorite local bar/restaurant talking to a friend. This guy was sitting half way down the bar talking to a guy. So he gets up to go to the bathroom and on the way back told me that the 'specific' red color of my top looked really good on me. I smiled and told him that was sweet and thanked him. Then his friend left a bit later and he asked if he could join me and my friend. We all talked for a while where I realized this guy was VERY smart. In fact he produced a Mensa card. My friend left and this guy seemed really interested in me. I had to catch a train so he walked me all the way to the train station and all along the way he wanted to hold hands, hug and kiss me. I was thrilled, of course. Much younger than me and really cute. So anyways, I think he intentionally made me miss my train and was wanting me to go home with him to cuddle. We went to a bar near the train station (irish pub) where he kissed me several times. 🙂 He said he is totally straight and has never kissed a guy before. In this limbo stage I am in I have to understand what he is saying. But anyways it was fun and I finally caught my train.

Last night I go to another bar to talk to a friend of mine who bartends there and a couple came in. They just started talking to me and asking me all kinds of questions about my transition and such. The guy was really drunk but his finance wasn't. Anyways, after a while they said they wanted a change of scenery and asked me if I wanted to go to another bar with them. I told them I needed to talk to my friend a bit and I would join them so they left. The guy blew a kiss at me from the exit.

So about 20 minutes later I go looking for the bar they told me they were going to and I couldn't see it where I thought it was at. I was standing in front of a bar looking lost and this guy was outside smoking a cig and asked me what I was looking for. He said you look lost. I told him the name of the bar and he said this is it. Then I saw the obscure sign and in fact it was the bar. I told him I was meeting a couple there and he asked me to describe them (he is a regular there) so I did. He said they left (said the guy was messed up and dancing by himself and I knew it was the couple I met earlier!). So this guy (very irish) asked me if he could buy me a drink. He seemed very nice so I said yes and we went inside. It was an irish pub. I talked with him for about a half hour then told him I needed to go catch my train. I asked him if I could have a hug and he said "if i can have a kiss"! He was adorable, actually so I gave him a tight hug and a quick kiss. He said "I never kissed a guy before". This was all right in the middle of a busy straight bar. He walked me outside and we smoked a cig and he wanted one more kiss. Then I left.

So, this has been an interesting week. I am a bit confused why there would be so many straight guys showing affection to me right there in public (in a straight atmosphere).  All three guys said they have never been with a guy before. I know I am not mentally a guy but at the same time a lot of people interpret it that I am a guy.

I hope this was not a fluke and continues!!!!!

[Muffin]

Wow!! That's amazing!!! Maybe you're passing better than you realise??? Sounds awesome I say roll with it!!!
Could be the start of something new!

[spacial]

So, this has been an interesting week. I am a bit confused why there would be so many straight guys showing affection to me right there in public (in a straight atmosphere).  All three guys said they have never been with a guy before. I know I am not mentally a guy but at the same time a lot of people interpret it that I am a guy.

I hope this was not a fluke and continues!!!!!

Just a thought, but two points spring to mind.

1, you are most likely gorgeous.

2. The reactionary element who try so hard to cast Transgender people as evil perverts are losing big time.

I think both points work together.

[tekla]

A few more points

- As someone who grew up in SF all I can say is "never presume anyone is straight, never presume anyone is gay."

Anyone who has read these boards knows that so much of this is self-defined that it's hard to even know what it means anymore, kind of like the old line: Just because I like to go down the pier and blow sailors doesn't mean I'm gay.

- As someone who has been around a few blocks - Everyone lies about sex.  Since people will do just about anything for a piece of ass, I would always assume that other people are doing what I would be doing, which is trying to say what I think you want to hear.  I can't be the only person here who talked women into bed with that whole "I'm worried I'm gay" deal.

- Oh yeah, as someone who has spend a huge percentage of their life in and around bars and clubs - NEVER BELIEVE WHAT ANYONE SAYS IN A BAR.  They think that because they are in a bar everyone is going to assume they are telling the truth^* - that whole In vino veritas thing.  Always assume they have not had enough to drink to start telling the truth yet.



I hadn't intended, To bend the rules
Whiskey don't make liars, It just makes fools
So I didn't mean to say it, But I meant what I said

[Dana Lane]

And here I was getting a bit more confidence in myself. 🙁

[tekla]

As well you should be.  You are fitting in and working in your space. 

I mean, were they good kissers?  Are you?

[Anne Selene]

As I often live in France for some months a year (can be up to 6) I know that when people meet, male to male does handshakes but male to female and female to females does kisses.

Many people know me over there from the time I was presented as male so it was all handshakes but today about 80% says "hi" with kisses which in fact also gives me the female feelings as I know they accept me as female as they would never give a male a kiss. However during the swine flu "outbreak" the policy in France was to do all handshakes to avoid the risks of getting swine flu. 

[Janet_Girl]

Most important is did you enjoy the encounters?

Who cares about the passing thing, they saw someone who sparked an interest, nothing more.  You pass well enough to not get hassled in a straight bar.