A little confused?

[loltowne]

I have been thinking a lot about my gender identity lately, I am genetically male but my brain feels like bit of both. Internally I don't really think of myself as male or female, more of a blend, and that's how I came across the concept of androgyne. It was a relief to know that what I wasn't alone in what I was feeling but I still don't really feel like I fit in at all; I am of a masculine appearance and have no desire to change it to appear more androgynous and am very comfortable with being physically male.
Psychologically though, it's a different story. My ratio of masculine to feminine traits is probably around 60:40 (probably closer to 50:50 then that), I do not identify with male peers but I still do feel that little bit more male than perfectly andro. The confusion comes from my insecurity about this, the andro 'label' feels right but looking around these forums, I don't know if I fit the description, a lot of people here seem a lot more sure and dedicated and confident in knowing exactly who they are, do I fit the definition of andro?

[Eva Marie]

Sounds like androgyne to me, but everyone has to arrive at that decision for themselves, and be comfortable with that decision. The people that you say who sounded secure in what they are have probably already gone through this process.

Androgyne is a very wide label, and it's membership includes a very wide variety of people.

There is no rush - take your time, read the site, and make your own decisions.

[Sevan]

Yea...confusion runs in the "family" *giggles* Truely though. We carve our own path to look like...what we need. If YOU feel androgyn fits you...then it fits! Eureka!! Welcome to the club
For me...it's an interesting place, and filled with plenty of uncertainty and fears and trials and muck and mire. But on the days ya get it right...gosh it's good stuff. *hugs*

[loltowne]

thankyou very much  I always get a little silly and insecure over these things, I'm bi and comfortable with it but when I first came out I was really worried that maybe I just thought I was bi but I wasn't really?
Anyway, I really feel this fits me, it's still such a relief to find that it has a name and there are other people who have something similar. I just thought I was a freak, I had never heard the term androgyne before! But I guess I'm still a little nervous, it's all very new to me.

[Sevan]

I look at it as if it's emotional yoga. You've got to stretch toward acceptance, release that which holds you back and breath into it!

[Pica Pica]

I am of a masculine appearance and have no desire to change it to appear more androgynous and am very comfortable with being physically male.
Psychologically though, it's a different story. My ratio of masculine to feminine traits is probably around 60:40 (probably closer to 50:50 then that),

Welcome to the club.

It's all about the psychology I reckon, sod the outward appearance, if you feel a bit o this and a bit o that, your as andro as the next. The next part is to see where it leads you, hopefully to comfort and acceptance.

[Kinkly]

Loltowne you sound a lot like me when I first came here. the labels that people who fit in the androgyne catagory vary quite a lot but we can not be given the label by someone else it all comes down to how you define yourself and you may choose to change labels or create your own but that is up to you
but If you don't see yourself as just male or just female you fit in the androgyne box