I am an androgyn by definition but i don't really like labels.
"An Androgyne is one who's gender identity is not of the polarized genders of male or female."
I am married to Mia and Marq. I am also a bi-sexual. I have had many crushes on women that were as intense as crushes on males. But i never had the opportunity to act on those crushes so some would say that it doesn't count. I disagree. I think that if marq was all male, i don't think things would've worked out between us.
I reject the roles that society and media place on gender and males and females. Such as the stupid beer commericial where a beercan gets dropped on the head of some guy who is saying something sensitive; or the woman who is obsessively cleaning someone elses house because she loves her swiffer.
I enjoy dressing up when there is someplace special to be. But I never felt comfortable wearing short skirts (sorry Marq). I always felt exposed. I much more enjoy wearing baggy black pants and fairy shirts, or jeans and shirts. I just like being comfortable. Growing up, i always wanted to shop in the guys section rather than the girl section because they always had cooler pants. and i hate pink! I also love wearing hippy type skirts and shirts.
I enjoy activities on both sides of the spectrum, and usually fall inbetween. As a camp counselor, for instance, during a picnic, we had the girly girls who loved shopping, hair, etc. We had the guys who were ruff housing, or talking about sports, and then there were the floaters. There were about 2 or 3 of us who went from group to group listening and interacting with conversations we enjoyed and we weren't a clique. As a camper, i knew i would be a counselor one day, and enjoyed the thought of hanging out with my females counselors on a more personal note, not just a camper/counselor relationship. As a fellow counselor, i got to know them, and realized they didn't have any of the same intrests as i did. When we all went out, i ended up identifying with the guys, rather than the girls.
I am somewhat an outcast among my fellow girls that i hang out with in NJ. They can't understand why i don't shave and shower everyday. I try to explain to them that i don't want to. My sister has been understanding. But they still make fun when they see armpit hair (but its not totally unshaven, just a little stubble). I think that taking showers everyday actually makes my skin dried out.
"Often, when asked if they feel like a man or like a woman their answers are, "I'm both.", "I'm neither" or, "I'm just human". " i think this statement is me. Mia asks, and i say "i'm just me"
I know this isn't in any sort of timeline, its just ramblings. Thanks for listening.
