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When people still think you are a girl, even after they know your name.

Started by Elijah3291, April 06, 2010, 12:39:03 PM

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@Cairus:  I almost always correct someone now if they make a mistake.  I do it politely as I can (usually just "I'm a guy" or "It's he/sir, actually" said like it's no big deal).  Most times I've done this, it's because I didn't pass as well as I thought.  After I correct them, the person either figures out I'm trans and decides to "humor" me or thinks they've simply made a mistake, apologizes, and moves on.

The problem is, it's become automatic to explain with a little joke why they might have messed up (so they don't feel embarrassed about misgendering me--happens too often than I'd like).  I was in clinical the other day and the RN I was with accidentally called me she but corrected herself quickly.  I, doing my regular routine, said, "Oh it's okay, people do that a lot because I look young."  She had already moved on by that time, though, and looked at me really funny.

It was then that I understood I no longer needed to explain anything.  That cisgender males who get misgendered don't correct and give some idiot explanation.
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Eosophoros

When I was younger and my parents introduced me as Eliza, people who had just met me used to call me any variant on "he," "your son," et. al. (Which - I won't lie - I've always gotten a kick out of. ^_^) Recently, I met someone I hadn't seen in a couple of years, and didn't know very well then - and when she referred to me, she called me "Elijah."
So I guess Eliza sounds a bit like Elijah, if you don't have a good ear for inflection.
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Elijah3291

Quote from: Eosophoros on May 07, 2010, 07:21:05 PM
When I was younger and my parents introduced me as Eliza, people who had just met me used to call me any variant on "he," "your son," et. al. (Which - I won't lie - I've always gotten a kick out of. ^_^) Recently, I met someone I hadn't seen in a couple of years, and didn't know very well then - and when she referred to me, she called me "Elijah."
So I guess Eliza sounds a bit like Elijah, if you don't have a good ear for inflection.

yea, once i told this guy my name.. and he says "Eliza?" and I said.. "NO, Eli JAH" lol
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