How???

[BannanaPeel]

Im so confused about this whole thing...I dont know how to tell my parents...Anyone out there who had the same problem? If so please reply with help. I guess Im just uncomfortable about the whole thing

[Cody Jensen]

I am in the EXACT same situation as you. I was thinking of just simply saying "I want to be a boy". But they probably won't get it at all. I'm so scared as to how they will react. Good luck.

[LordKAT]

Some people have had luck in writing their feelings down and giving them a letter with an invitation to talk after it is read. If you look around, you will probably find examples of what others have written to give an idea of what to write.

[Nicky]

Which bit confuses you the most? If you are still confused about yourself I would make that a priority.

What would you like to tell them?

Best if luck!

[Samantha_Peterson]

Well with me I think they kinda suspected for a while. I led up to it anyways by first asking for a gender identity therapist. What I didn't plan on was the question of whether I thought I was a crossdresser or a transgender being asked while my mom was there. I do have to say that I feel better after knowing that there is no need to hide it from them anymore.

[Rock_chick]

Yet to tell mine...i live in a different part of the country so don't see them too often. Will need to tell them at some point tho and I'll probably do it face to face...even if i end up running home afterwards.

I think the best plan is to be prepared and just pick a moment that feels right for you.

[Vanessa_yhvh]

When I told my mom, I thought hard about how to phrase it. Finally settled on some wording to manipulate the flow of discussion in the direction I wanted it to go. As close to the exact wording as I can recall:

"You know how when I was young, I never felt like a boy, but felt like a girl? And how I never felt like a man, but felt like a woman? Well, it's time for me to start getting some treatment. The doctors don't have a way to change how I feel, but they have this hormone therapy that can block my testosterone receptors and raise my estrogen levels. If I respond well to it, it may really improve my quality of life."

One of the critical bits was the "you know how" part. In my case, it was obvious that my family should know *something* at least, because they had given me enough trouble for it when I was younger. But the main thing is that it shifted emphasis away from "I'm dropping a bombshell on you" to an appeal to that part of them that already suspected something, and more significantly wants you to have a good, full life.

After I started on HRT, I started elaborating on some of the general effects that we can expect to take place. One bit of info at a time instead of a big ol' nuke.

[Usagi-Mimi]

It's a difficult situation- This is going to sound maybe like a stereotypical response, but I mean it with all my heart.

I told my mother back in January, in my case, I had already made an appointment at the Center for Sexual health here to see a psychologist and well, go over everything. I'm nearly 23 so... The responsibility there lies on my end. After I made the appointment, I went out to her one night, and I just opened up with the fact of the matter "Mom, we need to talk..." the conversation lead on a few lines, stating that it was something serious, and that mattered and she needed to listen (she... never really listens to me much,) anyways... After that, I just came out and told the truth "Mom, you know I've never fit in with any guys I know, and I've known for quite some time that I need to be female, and I want to emphasize the word need, not want... I've made what I think is the proper decision and booked an appointment to see a psychologist specializing in this matter on Feb 19th."

It was the hardest paragraph I've ever spoke, I choked up and stuttered a lot... But I said it. My mother I knew wouldn't be accepting, and she wasn't, and she's still not. I'm not trying to tell you you have to tell parents/family now... But at some point it will happen, and in the case of myself, my ex (whom was MtF,) and my friends.. It was all that was possible.

You should definitely steer the conversation if you can, with my mother though... I had to be blunt, as I knew (and was correct) she would react negatively instantly, after I said it... The conversation was done for the night, just her making accusations, telling me it was a phase, etc...

I wish you luck though, if you need to chat ever... Just let me know!

[BannanaPeel]

Thanks guys  Wish me luck.