Holy heck. It's been a long time since I was a teenager, so I guess I've forgotten how hellish it can be to deal with parents at that time. I didn't do all that stuff, but I did get a lot of friction from my dad about growing my hair long. As soon as I moved out it was down to there and curler set in no time.
Try to remember that in your overall life, this is only a short term thing for you. Just as kids struggle during adolescents to become adults, parents struggle to know when to stop treating their kids as children and let them make their own decisions. The best thing you can do is seem consistent and stable to them-- a challenge, for sure, when your having issues about your own gender.
Lyric