GP referred me to a psychologist today, but...

[Jam]

I think people don't say "too fast" because they're thinking about your welfare. They're saying it because they can't fathom what you're doing.

Thats defo true. I think they just put it to the back of there minds and never really bother to properly understand what it is your saying. I also think they don't honestly believe your actually going to do it. So when you start taking hormones it hits home for them that this is going to happen. Obviously then they have to to actually deal with it so they say 'too fast' because they havent done that yet.

I hope that made sense....

[Arch]

I think people don't say "too fast" because they're thinking about your welfare. They're saying it because they can't fathom what you're doing.

You could be right. But who can really understand bizarre cisgender thinking?
Post Merge: April 18, 2010, 02:00:21 PM

I also think they don't honestly believe your actually going to do it. So when you start taking hormones it hits home for them that this is going to happen. Obviously then they have to to actually deal with it so they say 'too fast' because they havent done that yet.

Makes perfect sense. In fact, that might be what happened with my ex. He knew about me for almost the entire relationship. For years (while I was out), I talked about hormones, surgery, this trans book, that trans person...but as long as I wasn't actually transitioning, it was all good. And when I was transitioning...all hell broke loose, in a sense. He claimed that he hadn't known it was a possibility and all sorts of stuff like that. Poor guy. It must have been quite a shock because I had been back in the closet for so long.

[Nemo]

This all makes enlightening reading, although it's also disheartening and a little frustrating.

I tried asking my doctor for a letter to the DVLA etc., explaining that I was planning to change my name legally at some point. She, like the vicar I was hoping would sign my deed poll, said "not yet" It's a little hard to progress when the people saying "too fast" are the people you need help from to move along the transition process

Oh well, I have my psych. appointment next Thursday now. Hopefully after getting referred I can get the damn change thing in motion, 'cause it's really ticking me off now. I'm already applying for jobs as Sam now, 'cause I really don't want to go through another interview as a female.

[Arch]

...I really don't want to go through another interview as a female.

Oig.