I could use some advice...

[Shiro M.]

*sighs* That's the problem, I have no energy anyways. Its frustrating cause when I get kinda horny I play basketball, but as soon as I stop, I'm hard again.

[andream]

I know this might sound a little bit facetious, but it's not meant to be. Maybe you could experiment with anal? You may find that far more satisfying.

[Shiro M.]

Anal? Well, I've read about prostate stimulation and such. Is there a way to approach it? I'm not exactly sure what to do down there. And what did you "not meant to be"?

[andream]

Ummmm - I think you need to figure out the whole anal thing for yourself, I'd feel a bit awkward talking about details here... you could search google for "anal sex how to" or some such thing.

[Shiro M.]

Well... ok, I guess. I'll see what google turns up. So.... yeah, I guess I'll just see what I can do.
Post Merge: April 30, 2010, 12:54:53 AM
Umm, I'm not really getting anywhere, if anyone can help but doesn't want to post details, please pm me.

[cynthialee]

http://www.babeland.com/how-to-have-anal-sex.html

[tekla]

Articles needs more pictures, but some of the quotes are classic.

all kinds of people enjoy it. And for good reason: it feels good!

[Karla]

no seriously do something very physical maybe go hit the gym

I agree, also stay away from heavy weights.
Otherwise it will pair with T and make one bulk up with muscle and drive growth hormones higher.

But, as some of you may have experienced, ordinary mastrubation is very unsastifying and almost never helps to relieve any sexual tension or urges I may have

Not to mention making you feel like trash before, during and after the act...
Try different methods of sexual release, I thinnk there was a thread around here where some talked about female O's. You may find it very natural and a hundred fold more satisfying emotionally and all. My horniness just plummets for weeks afterwards

I've never been that horny anyways, I've probably been low on T all along but whenver it happened it still was the .. thorn in my side... No more of that since I took anti-androgens, which by the way are not expensive.

[Shiro M.]

I came out to my dad... he took it well. I'm just stressed as hell, and want to get things moving, but hes always viewed me as a boy and I just don't know.... We made an appoinment with a therapist equiped to handle this.... I don't know what to do now.... My sister can't find out she's only 11, stressed as hell.... Damn.... Any advice on how to get comfortable with this or something....? I'm lost...

[Karla]

Congratulations!!

Im just overflowing with happiness for you, please feel free to hug yourself on my behalf *hugggs*

Part of newly coming out is how we think others see us and if they saw us for too long in a certain way... it gets better I promise, on both sides.

I wish I had come out to my entire family, maybe someday.
You'd be surprised what the young ones can wrap their heads around

And don't forget to breathe, smile, laugh go crazy and run the streets. Then wake up tomorow and nurture yourself, the girl that was meant to be. That's the best way I can express  it.

You're lucky and I wish you all the best.

[andream]

Well done! That takes loads of courage. I still haven't even told my parents yet, but they live in another country.

[Shiro M.]

On a side note: can someone please give me tips on anal (not involving toys). Google fails. 

[Karla]

What can I say... keep it hygienic and experiment! 

[cynthialee]

Shiro,
Perhaps it would be better if you took your curent questions to the sexuality forum.
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,36.0.html

[LordKAT]

My sister can't find out she's only 11,

?  Why not? What does being 11 have to do with anything?

[Anthrogal]

Seriously, young children tend to better understand it than adults.

[Kaori]

I came out to my dad... he took it well. I'm just stressed as hell, and want to get things moving, but hes always viewed me as a boy and I just don't know.... We made an appoinment with a therapist equiped to handle this.... I don't know what to do now.... My sister can't find out she's only 11, stressed as hell.... Damn.... Any advice on how to get comfortable with this or something....? I'm lost...

Hello Shiro,

"Time" is how you become comfortable with this.
That doesn't sound like a very fun answer nor a quick one, I know.  But I believe the best thing you can do is take the time to make the right choices - make informed choices.

I think you have done great so far with communicating to the right people about this.  Keep this up and don't let frustration, fear or doubt shut you down or shut you up.

And as for you sister - there is no reason not to tell her and every reason to, she can be one your greatest allies and insights.  Even if she were 5 years old, you or your parents would probably still do best to approach her with the subject sooner or later.  And besides, this isn't something that any of you should be ashamed of toward one another.  At least not how I see it.

As for the stress I would find a friend or two to confide in, and a support group of some kind if you can find one - your school counsel or your therapist may have suggestions for more support.  I would take advantage of all of the help you can get, even if it is "just talking."

I wish that I came out to my dad while he was still around, unfortunately I didn't have as much courage at that time.  I was way to worried about how he was going to react toward me and not focused on the positives it would have allowed us both if I had.

Wow I need to get to bed.  Trust that I'm not trying to tell you what to do... just trying to help.  In the end, it's your world, your body, and your happiness.


Cheers

[Shiro M.]

My dad thinks I'm transgendered because of how I grew up, he said "this is not something you're born with." And I'm nervous about HRT, I have a feeling they'll run me in circles, make up some excuse, or flat ou deny me hormonal therapy. I have no friends to confide in, I played the male role too well.

[BunnyBee]

My dad thinks I'm transgendered because of how I grew up, he said "this is not something you're born with."

I never get how this is a point.  However one comes to be trans, whatever the process really is, they still are trans.  Nature or nuture, chicken or egg...

It reminds me of getting in trouble in my brattier days and telling my parents, 'Well, it's either your genes or how you raised me that made me this way.  Maybe you should ground yourself .'

I did have enough tact at least not to use that line when I came out to them about being trans, lol.

[Shiro M.]

I give up, I can't do this anymore. Its too much pain, I can't take it. I just want it to stop. There's just too much, school, friends, parents, love, gender. I just want it to stop... I wish I was dead.