Came out to my mom...went well I think

[jmaxley]

I finally got enough courage to tell my mom today.  I've been dropping hints here and there so hopefully it wouldn't be a big shock for her.  She took it really well, much much better than I expected, and it seemed like she was really trying to understand.  She did say she wanted me to be in counseling for at least a couple years before I did anything "drastic" i.e. testosterone, etc. (I don't think I can wait that long though).  I think she's hoping that I'll change my mind.  I told her I've been dealing with some of this most of my life and that I've known I was trans for the last several years.  I'm going to see if I can find a site to email her about with some basic info for family.  I would have done this ahead of time and given her a printout but my printer won't work.  I'm really relieved,though, she was concerned but didn't seemed real shocked or upset.

[cynthialee]

Well here's hopeing that things stay mellow.
Congrats on a job well done.

[Janet_Girl]

Good job.  But the therapist may have other ideas.  Like starting HRT.

[LordKAT]

Try pflag for family info stuff.

[jmaxley]

Good job.  But the therapist may have other ideas.  Like starting HRT.

Lol, yes, that's what I'm hoping for. 

Try pflag for family info stuff.

Great idea.  I'll see if I can find a chapter near her.

I'm thinking I may have spoken too soon.  I talked to her again and she is soo in denial.  She thinks this is a "phase".  She kept telling me over and over not to rush into stuff.  I tried to explain I've been dealing with this for years.  She also told me I was mentally ill.  *mental head slap*  I should have seen that one coming.

It still feels really surreal having told her.  I wonder if that's normal. 

[Jam]

I'm thinking I may have spoken too soon.  I talked to her again and she is soo in denial.  She thinks this is a "phase".  She kept telling me over and over not to rush into stuff.  I tried to explain I've been dealing with this for years.  She also told me I was mentally ill.  *mental head slap*  I should have seen that one coming.

It still feels really surreal having told her.  I wonder if that's normal.

Well first WELDONE!
I think i did the same thing, my dad took it really well but then we had a conversation a little later that didn't go so well.....i've been trying to find my original topic to update it but basically he now looks hopeful when i say i have to go to mental health so they can rule out it being anything else. He keeps saying 'well you never know! it could be!'

Rather have me mental then trans, honestly what does society do to people  the twit.

[jmaxley]

Yeah, my mom's wanting me to make sure and go to counseling (which I plan on anyway...got to get my T letter.  )  The only thing really good that happened yesterday was I got shown to the men's dressing room for the very first time when I went to try on clothes (yes! yes!  hahaha, yes!!!--a little excited about that).  I just kept remembering that as I was talking to my mom.

I have to say, trans people are pretty amazing.  Look what we go through, the strength and courage it takes.

I'm trying to give my mom time and be understanding.  I've had several years to get used to the idea, and it'll take her a little while.

I do wonder if I'm doing the right thing.  When I wake up in the morning, I'm terrified I might be making the wrong choice.  But I remember how suicidal I've been at times over being in a female body.