Pissed at therapist

[Hurtfulsplash]

I am so f***ing angry at my therapist! He is such a pessimist, or maybe I'm just being to optimistic. I've talked to a lot of transsexuals and have never heard of any of them being turned down for treatment by a GP or endo, but my therapist is basically telling me that NO one will treat me because it's not medically necessary. And the strange fact is his daughter is transsexual! I'm starting to think he has his own issues with that and that's why he's giving me such a hard time. On the other hand he says he'll spit out a letter saying that I have GID for any doctor that needs one. I just wish he'd do his damn job as a therapist. The receptionist of the very first Endo I called said she'd doesn't see a problem with treating transsexuals for HRT. If anything this therapist has lit a fire under my ass, I'm tempted to call every GP and Endo in the phone book and see how many would treat us.

[chrysalis]

I'm sorry that's so frustrating to hear! Try getting a second opinion I guess?

[Janet_Girl]

It sounds like you will have to do the footwork, including finding a new therapist.

[Hurtfulsplash]

Since he'll write the letter I'll take that from him, but as for doing the footwork you're absolutely right, he's no help there at all. Even if he just said "I don't know" that would be ok, but he's telling me flat out that basically I'm f***ed. However he did say that's just the info he's getting from his other patients, but I already know that to be wrong. I'm working with another counselor but she has no experience working with trans people, she's doing a good job though.

[aubrey]

A few years ago I called every endo in the local phone book (about 10) and about half said NO, which shocked me a bit. It seems so inhumane and indecent to actually say 'no I won't treat you because you're trans'.

[YellowDaisy]

I am so f***ing angry at my therapist! He is such a pessimist, or maybe I'm just being to optimistic. I've talked to a lot of transsexuals and have never heard of any of them being turned down for treatment by a GP or endo, but my therapist is basically telling me that NO one will treat me because it's not medically necessary. And the strange fact is his daughter is transsexual! I'm starting to think he has his own issues with that and that's why he's giving me such a hard time. On the other hand he says he'll spit out a letter saying that I have GID for any doctor that needs one. I just wish he'd do his damn job as a therapist. The receptionist of the very first Endo I called said she'd doesn't see a problem with treating transsexuals for HRT. If anything this therapist has lit a fire under my ass, I'm tempted to call every GP and Endo in the phone book and see how many would treat us.

this thread is old, but i know how it is... my therapist is getting to be something i dread going to, and even though i'm only seeing her once every two months, i just can't take the crticism anymore, because i know i'm on the right track, and she just has a way of making me feel miserable when i go there... her personality also has a way of revolting me.

[pebbles]

When I was 20 I spoke to my NHS GP extremely anxiously and he basically turned me down. It was one of two large setbacks that delayed me 2.5 years.

My attitude is abit more aggressive. "I'm doing this no matter what you say. I would like you to assist me, But if not I will go alone."

[Dryad]

You could go looking for a new therapist, because this one is personally involved, and biased because of it.
It's not offensive to do this, once you explain his bias. In the NL, people who have a personal bias on certain cases will simply be not allowed to deal with them for other patients because it is malpractice.

His own daughter has trans-problems. That creates a bias, and it's usually not easy for parents to deal with it. Completely understandable. I think it's better for both of you if you go your separate ways.

Little edit: I can fully understand some medical professionals do not want to take on trans people. It's nothing discriminating, it seems to me.. Rather; if I were in their shoes, and didn't know all there is to know about such situations, I'd be pretty afraid to screw up. Better have someone do it who does know what they're doing.
I'd choose to get more schooling before I'd start treating trans people.

[Asfsd4214]

The closest experience I have had to being rejected entirely was my GP saying she'd refuse to see me if I self medicated.

However... my advice, get a new therapist.

I have been told all sorts of BS by different therapists. I have seen 3 in my life and have significantly more bad experiences to report than good ones.

One of those three was so bad (told me that nobody would consider giving me HRT if I weren't a cross dresser because the standards of care she couldn't produce or name who publishes them say that you do) that I didn't even go for a 2nd session.

If you're not happy with your therapist, drop them, but I doubt you will be outright unable to find anyone who will treat you.

[Dryad]

Well; most practitioners demand that you go full time before starting HRT, as a method of making sure. To be honest: While I'm nervous as anything, I do think it's the best thing to do.

Also, self-medicating is very risky, and if I were a practitioner, I wouldn't want to be held responsible for heart-failure and other stuff either.