Help me...?

[Yukimenoko]

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[MsFierce]

Welcome  . Darling, it's never to late to transition so no your not late. You might wanna start by getting a therapist that deals with Gender Identity that will help you.

[Rock_chick]

Hi

*Waves*

First up, you have an amazing GF. hehe. Telling the first person is always the worst, but it does get easier.

I'll try and answer your questions as best I can, but please bare in mind I've only recently faced up to who I am and started on the path towards being a complete person...so here goes...

1) This will sound very zen, but where you go from here is forwards. You've already put your finger on it, you can't put the lid on it once you let it all out. I would really, really, really recommend having some counselling with a therapist who specialises in gender issues. It will really help you figure things out, give you an idea about how you'd like to move forward and let you deal wit all the pent up emotion you've been carrying around. Also, talk to your GF. She sounds amazing and supportive...though make sure you do loads of couply stuff to. hehe. you don't want the gender thing to start defining your relationship.

2) There's no real need to rush things, 21 is quite a young age to start transition...the key thing is only you know what you want to do and what kind of speed feels comfortable. You may want to move quickly, you may choose to take a bit more time, neither way is wrong and it's really up to you and what feels right for you.

3) Telling your parents is scary...I'm just working up to telling mine. I honestly don't know how they'll take it. But I've had a lot of support from all the lovely people here at susan's and they've helped me through some of my darker days and I know they'll do the same for you hun.

4) Yeah, I know what it's like. don't be afraid though, there's a whole forum of amazingly wonderful people here to help you deal with it.

Helena x

[Hikari]

Welcome, I think you will find much in common with other people here. That is one impressive wall of text. 'Studying like a horse on fire'? interesting colloquialism I don't think I have heard that one before. Also your GF seems amazing, hold on to that one!

1. You have many paths that can proceed on, there is no 'right' or 'wrong' choice when it comes to what you are going to do with your life. Personally whenever I find myself asking where I should go from here, I just think: 'What do I want?' and I pursue that.

2. You are young, there have been people 16 and 61 who have transitioned, age changes things only but so much. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

3. I can't help you here, I don't know your mother, and someones occupation isn't really enough to make any judgments by.

4. So am I, but at least you know your not alone!  we are all here for each other having a little solidarity is a great thing. Just relax, remember to breathe and know that you don't have to face fear alone.

[K8]

Welcome to Susan's, Yokimenoko. 

There's a lot of good information and good people here.  Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common.  Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.

Be sure to look under the Announcements heading.  There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours:

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions
  
• Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar)
  

Look through the other stuff there, too.

Coming out to yourself and to others can be one of the hardest parts of this.  There are many threads on this forum about doing that.  Is there a support group in your area?  Counseling/therapy can help a lot.

As someone who didn't start transition until more than 3 times your age, I would advise you not to worry about that.  You have time.  There is no rush or timetable.  Go at your own pace.

Happy exploring and good luck.

- Kate

[therese]

I'll do this in english, to the benefit of all those that don't speak norwegian...

Are you a student in Trondheim? If you are, contact SiT (studentsamskipnaden), they've got a psych service that can see you in a few days notice. They are just for emergency, but they'll refer you to the public health care.
Norwegian text coming up: Be om henvisning til Tiller DPS (Distrikts Psykiatrisk Senter). Jeg gikk der et par ganger (siste året før jeg ble operert, mens problemene sto på som værst), og det gikk ganske bra faktisk. De har hatt flere sånne som oss. Timen på legesenteret til SiT er også gratis for studenter.
Just telling her where to get reffered, if she's in the town I think she might be in.

But, the sooner you start, the better IMO. Rikshospitalet (the norwegian national hospital) are the only ones "allowed" to treat pople like us over our equivalent of the british NHS, and they are picky to say the least. They're likely to demand at least a couple of months of RLE before hormones, unless things have changed since I went there. Then it'll be a year of hormones before another 2 years waiting for surgery. (There are only 2 surgeons in Norway, about 20 surgeries a year). To sum up, from the first appointment at the GID-clinic in Oslo, it'll be at least 3, maybe up to 4, years until surgery. If you're sure of this, go get a referral to a local DPS as soon as possible. The sooner you start, the better.

PS: If you're not in Trondheim, just replace Trondheim with whatever town you're in.