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In a relationship?

Started by accord03, May 21, 2010, 08:16:00 AM

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Chamillion

I've been with my gf for about 4 months

I'd like to get married but not for a long time

Undecided on kids
;D
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Basiliximab

I'm in a complicated situation: I believe we've settled on being "committed room-mates". We were together for seven years, engaged for about three I believe. We want to stay together long-term, but not as a couple; we just like the relationship we have living together.

That being said however, I still want to live on my own--part-time; I want to live in a different city every three to five years, however my room-mate's job does not allow him to do this. Which is fine with me, 'cause I actually really want to live on my own for a while at least and see if it's as great as I remember it being. I love my own space, and was very surprised I was able to live with my room-mate for as long as I have lived with him.

Whether or not there will be anymore than this committed room-mate relationship I have—perhaps with someone else—I cannot say. I am not going to be looking. But if something happens, then I will go from there. For now though, I plan to be on my own for most of the time and will be happy with that.

Marriage--most likely not. I don't really see the point, at least for me.


Definitely no kids. Don't like most of them. Don't care for the responsibility, the expense... the noise. Yeah, so no kids for me.
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brainiac

I've been in a relationship with my partner/boyfriend for three years. He's amazing. We were close friends for a while, and we waited to date until I felt ready for a relationship (hoo boy did he take that the wrong way... he thought I was speaking in Girl and rejecting him). He was the first person I came out to, around a year ago, and to this day I'm still astonished that he's taken it this well and been this supportive. He identifies(d?) as straight and his previous relationship was with someone extremely abusive (which I won't go into detail about) effectively began transitioning without telling him and then eventually came out as FTM. He tends not to be attracted to the very androgynous or masculine-looking type of girl. So you would think that once I told him, he'd flee.

But through all of his fears and worries, all legitimate, some rational and some not so much (just like mine), he's stood by me. He's been open about how he felt, made many, many compromises and sacrifices to support me, he listened to my own fears and helped me fight my demons. Having both come from dependent relationships, we knew what to watch out for and have built an open, trusting and healthy relationship. He really is my partner and my best friend.

Even if we end up not being able to be together in the end, I know that I won't for a second regret the time we spent together. But still, I hope that we can have a life together and raise some brats of our own. I think we'd both make good daddies, with a little work. ;)
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accord03

Woah!  :) It's great to know that there are bio straight males who accepts FTM. I didn't know and wouldn't think.



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aydan_boy

Had a boyfriend up to yesterday..  ::)
I'm way too young to know about the other two, but i want to adopt a kid for sure when I'm older.  Maybe marry someone if i end up really clicking with them.
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Alessandro

I am in a relationship with another ftm type - genderqueer more specifically but its all complicated and meh - anyway we identify as a gay male couple.  We're dead happy and it all works out well!

As for the future I don't believe in marriage and I don't want children.  One thing I have been adamant about since I was a kid myself is that kids are not for me.  I do however want a kit-car and a lot of vintage clothing.   :laugh:
"You can't look where you're going if you don't know where you're going"
-Labyrinth
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brainiac

Quote from: accord03 on May 23, 2010, 11:05:31 PM
Woah!  :) It's great to know that there are bio straight males who accepts FTM. I didn't know and wouldn't think.
Like I said, he's amazing. :D He knew the label "gay" didn't fit him, and he was worried that being attracted to an FTM/genderqueer person meant that was how he had to identify. After some soul-searching and talking, he's found some approximation of his identity with "queer" or somewhere around "straight".

And I mean, if I were to completely transition, chances are we couldn't really be together, as he is attracted to female bodies (and honestly, male minds). But for now, we're still figuring out what we both need.
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Walter

I just got out of a relationship with a MtF I was with online

It was a good relationship but in the end we didn't have much in common. She was the politcal, book-smart intelligent type..where I'm the one who loves to talk about completely different things. Weather, languages, video games, Otherkin, mythological creatures, the beach, ect. I hate political discussions so...I'm just looking to find anyone who's a crazy video gamer like myself
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elvistears

Rolf...the Sound of Music?
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Muddy

Quote from: accord03 on May 22, 2010, 12:16:48 AM
I see there are people in here who can't take questions  ::)
I went to a great school so we did learn about sex ed but I fully block out the thought that FTMs would get pregnant when they're transitioning or when they claim they're an FTM. It is putting yourself and the child at risk but I don't THINK I mind if you do it before you start T, as long as you claim yourself to be a daddy after.


Nice to know some people are married and some wanting kids  :P

Wow, who appointed you the king of bodies and parenting?

My son will continue to call me mom for as long as he wants.

Post Merge: May 24, 2010, 06:39:15 PM

To answer the original question:

I already have a biological son, whom I gave birth to, as well as two stepsons from my deceased husband.

My girlfriend and I are nearing our one year anniversary, and fully intend to marry down the road.
No more kids though!  Please god, NO MORE!
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Walter

Quote from: elvistears on May 24, 2010, 06:17:23 PM
Rolf...the Sound of Music?

No x3 I didn't know anyone was named that in the movie
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s1ncere

Me and my ex broke up 5 months ago...we were together for 4 and a half years.....within those 5 months we did not have any communication until yesterday....hopefully she and I can work things out. I love that girl..she is the one I want to marry and have a family with one day...
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accord03

Good luck s1ncere - get her back!!
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s1ncere

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Walter

A weird update

I just got in a relationship with someone I know online today. Me and him get along pretty well, it's just I never thought he liked me until he told me he did. I liked him too it's just it never really crossed my mind

So far he seems pretty cool to be in a relationship with
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Walter

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