There has to be more to life than obsessive gender fixation!

[scarboroughfair]

Who are you as a spirit? Who are you as a soul? Why must we be haunted by gender equations and our place in society? I think the hippies in the 60's were on to something! To love and make love as a being. It didn't matter about being gay or straight, male or female. It all boiled down to a moment in time.

I think this fixation most of us here suffer from is an unhealthy obsession. Fine, be a girl! Be a Guy! Just go and live it the best you can!

Easier said than done? I'm not perfect at it, but it seems to come close. Just to live and accept the things I cannot change and change the things that I can change. But where each of us draw the line as individuals is completely up to us as individuals.

Reality and happiness is created in our minds! Where do you draw the line as far as how obsessive you are? The more obsession=more dissappointment and hurt.

Don't confuse obsession with a healthy drive to acquire a "Completeness" within yourself! This is fatal! A healthy drive is loving yourself for who you are at the moment and accepting the things you cannot change at that moment. An unhealthy obsession is where you fret and fall into despair over things you cannot control in that moment and fight a losing battle!

So I got beard stubble, It will be gone some day! So I don't have a vagina, there's someone who will love me as a transgender girl and for who I am!

I think a lot of us either fell or fall into the gender trap. This antagonizes transgender dysphoria. Some may think that "I AM A GIRL OR GUY"! It's like we put these expectations on our selves and go against our own traits to suit the role of "felt" gender. This is bull->-bleeped-<- in my opinion. Because I'm a girl I can't enjoy male things and viceversa? I think we need to quit trying to fit into the gender norm and be ourselves. When we ponder what a gender does to try and replicate ourselves to match that gender it only brings grief and further social conformity.

Who are you as a person? What are your TRUE desires in life? What's fantasy or fiction?

[aisha]

time is powerful, she's always carrying us aint she...
who cares why is it we only percieve this sometimes.. strange no? because when we do get it its like.. well what have i been waiting for.. so much pent up energy stored out there.. potential.. people put it in boxes and it comes out.. sometimes.. some of it it natural i guess. we all sleep.. but some of it.. is where nature gets crazy.. in us... because we're just folks who are like that... what can we do? we live.. i notice a lot of people are asleep, they need to wake up, get your head out of the sixties... and put it into these times, a bit a head, maybe a bit back.. and the big one, the now one, even in the sixties, they were clairvoyant ones, they were able to do everything now... in the sixties, and all time before this, everything, they did it now, and thats what i'm going to do, and i encourage you to do it too... large amounts of people, unafraid of being  ecstatic, unafraid of criticism, and repression because it is not there, people are actually good people, but we're a bit broken up... seems like everyone is doing spiritual fast now or something
is the obsession just the ghost of those times? yes! its trying to come back home, to its real home which is right now, and i don't know... it just happened.. spontaneously.. if you ask me, it had to do with the tree of life, and it still does..

[Anima]

You gave me a lot to think about.

[Angel On Acid]

You shouldn't let yourself get too obsessed with your gender problems; if you do you're going to be constantly miserable. There's more to life than this.