Oh your still a virgin.......

[justme19]

Why does this matter to other people. Growing up a guy this comes up ALOT. I honestly could not care I am proud of still being a virgin, even though I get some much crap from other people about it. But now even girls are asking me, am I still a virgin and why? WHY DOES THIS MATTER.....  I tell them thar I am and they tell me
..... nawhhh thats cute yea, kind of making fun of me...

Question is, why do people actully care about this? It really gets me anoyed!

Im going to get this for a long time though. I doubt I will ever have sex if I don't transition. It's just somthing that has never interested me. So why do other care so much.....

[Coppélia]

I'm in the same boat, probably won't have sex the way I am, and I get teased about it too.

I guess young people see it as an "adult" thing and until you do you're not as "mature" as they are. You probably won't get anyone commenting on it that's over 30.

[Dryad]

Well; a lot of the virgins I know, especially the ones in their mid-twenties, are simply so childish in their jokes. And sexist. And hopelessly disgusting in their remarks.
I think it's partly to do with yearning, and once they get over that, they'll see that people are just people, regardless of gender. That sex isn't this strange foreign thing, but a normal and loving act.

Also, it has been shown that having sex releases hormones that the brain needs to mature in certain areas. Having (had) sex often calms men down, for example, and solves a lot of anxiety issues. Interesting note here: It is hypothesized that only romantic sex releases these hormones. It has been shown that masturbation, for one, does not contribute to maturing psychologically.

To be honest: If you are a well-rounded non-judgemental patient and careful person, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. If you are not, then losing your virginity might help. So yes; I think it is wrong to judge people on the basis of them being a virgin. People are people, and nobody is the same. But in some cases: They just need to get laid and get over it, especially when their behaviour is offending people around them.

[justme19]

Well; a lot of the virgins I know, especially the ones in their mid-twenties, are simply so childish in their jokes. And sexist. And hopelessly disgusting in their remarks.
I think it's partly to do with yearning, and once they get over that, they'll see that people are just people, regardless of gender. That sex isn't this strange foreign thing, but a normal and loving act.

Also, it has been shown that having sex releases hormones that the brain needs to mature in certain areas. Having (had) sex often calms men down, for example, and solves a lot of anxiety issues. Interesting note here: It is hypothesized that only romantic sex releases these hormones. It has been shown that masturbation, for one, does not contribute to maturing psychologically.

To be honest: If you are a well-rounded non-judgemental patient and careful person, there is nothing wrong with being a virgin. If you are not, then losing your virginity might help. So yes; I think it is wrong to judge people on the basis of them being a virgin. People are people, and nobody is the same. But in some cases: They just need to get laid and get over it, especially when their behaviour is offending people around them.

hehe I am not offending anybody.... guys just pay me out and girls wonder why I have not lost it

I would say im more mature for my age. I can;t state my age because of rules on this site but I get along better with people that are about 3 years older then me.

I hope I read your post right, im a little unsure

[Metamorph]

Im too uncomfortable with my body and the "act" of being male to really be bothered about sex. If I found myself in a position where I could go through with it I probably would but I know Id be plagued with GID influenced thoughts the whole time. Using that part of my anatomy isnt really an appealing one but I guess Id try it just for the experience.
I used to be bothered by still being a virgin alot when I was in denial about myself. I was trying to show myself at being male so much that I made a point of being concerned with such matters in a way prove myself to others. Now its something that I dont pay much attention too, not that I would ever bring it up! Im more into kisses and cuddles anyway

[Maddie Secutura]

Why not counter with: "Unless you personally want to fix that for me I suggest you get off my back about it."

[pebbles]

Happened alot when I was younger I showed no interest in girls and lacked many elements of apparent sexuality.

In my teens everyone just accused me of begin gay, Eventually some canny friends accused me of begin asexual whitch is much closer however I denied it because I'm not aromantic. And pepole might have gotten the wrong idea.

These accusations of me begin gay stopped when me and a female friend became a couple, And early in our relationship she would express major satisfaction in my sexual performance thus pepole no longer assumed I was a virgin or gay.
However what all parties didn't know that I knew was that I was already too dysphoric to use my penis for sexual purposes. So I was intentionally extremely generous in all other ways.

This actually became a huge problem in our relationship and contributed to it's falling apart but there were other problems. at one point she did ask if I was trans I said no and lied because the implications are that nothing could be done.
She didn't say anything or gossip about sexual inadequacy because she's not like that however I have subsequently told pepole this and now once just like old times again I've been getting.

"So wait your actually a virgin?"
"Define virgin."
"Well have you had sex or not?"
"Define sex."

and
"Are you gay... I mean do you find men attractive?"

[lilacwoman]

I was well past 21 and still virgin and would probably have remained so except the chocie of trying to be male and revealing otherwise was not possible at that time.

[Bam]

I was not a virgin as a male but i am as a woman,my wife and i are still married and together and we do not have interest in each other that way,we look at the guys,but don't touch!!!

[Starscrash]

I'm 20 and I'm still a virgin.  I dated a girl for over 5 years, but she wanted to remain celibate until marriage.  I was honestly a bit relieved; I didn't know if I'd be able to perform, and was very concerned that I'd have trouble if it ever came to that.  I thought that I might be able to do it for her, but yeah, I've just never had any desire to be an insertive partner. 

[Autumn]

Well, what, kids are having sex at 12 these days right? If you can't reveal your age, you must be a minor, so yeah, no surprise there. (edit: What I mean is: no surprise that high school kids are harassing you for not having had sex already.)

Typically speaking, if you're a virgin past a certain point, people assume there's something abnormal/wrong with you.

Being closeted trans or closeted gay qualifies as something abnormal. Being a completely asocial aspie outcast classifies as abnormal and wrong.

One of the best things I ever did was just up and sleep with a guy, it really settled a lot of things for me. My sexuality drove me absolutely mad at points in my life.

I was 20 the first time I kissed a girl and had oral sex, 21 for sex, 22 with a guy. Sex is an experience in life, just like anything else, and by living that experience, you understand more about people in general, and about yourself.

[sarahm]

From what I know, or rather, have learned over the years.

Virginity is a sign of Manhood. You are not really a man, unless you can either beat the crap out of anyone who looks at you wrong, or if you have had sex. Some form of male social code or something.

I personally, have not had sex, I'm 21. And I do not plan to ever have sex as a male. Once I get my surgery, I will certainly be considering it if I meet the right guy. I am actually mentally incapable of having sexual intercourse as a male, my mind has so much conflict, that it blocks myself from physically being able to do it (Not unable to keep it up in this case, but more or less my mind screaming at me, "WHAT THE F### ARE YOU DOING!" is more the case.) But yeah, essentially when I went through high school, I was ASexual.

What I don't get is why some of the girls are asking if you are a virgin... I got that in primary school. I would ask what's a virgin? They would laugh at me. Gosh, I was only about 10 or so at the time :S And now, no one asks me. And Yes. I am still a virgin and proud of it! ^_^

[lightvi]

It is really annoying when people ask that, when they do ask I just say "Why, are you offering?" That usually defuses things (or not O_O) But it's really none of their business, I've never asked anyone that nor do I ever plan to. It just isn't something I would care about unless maybe I was in a relationship with them but even then it doesn't seem to matter. I also think it's really sexist that if guys are virgins it's a terrible thing but if girls are virgins it like totally ok even a good thing

[WarHeadJoe3]

I'm in the same boat, probably won't have sex the way I am, and I get teased about it too.

I guess young people see it as an "adult" thing and until you do you're not as "mature" as they are. You probably won't get anyone commenting on it that's over 30.

i agree. im 19, and people (mostly teens) think its the cool thing to do. have sex, get knocked up at 16 yrs old, ect. if a person is a virgin, then i applaud them, bc that means they are the mature person. waiting for the right person and not giving it out all willy nilly

[Rosa]

Why not counter with: "Unless you personally want to fix that for me I suggest you get off my back about it."

I wish I had thought of that one when I was teased for being a virgin.  I was in my mid 30's before I ever had sex with anyone, but perhaps more due to lack of opportunity rather than moral fortitude 

OP, the people teasing you might very well be virgins themselves.  Guys have been known to exaggerate before.  Try to not let the teasing get to you. 

[childofwinter]

Although most likely not cisgender (I don't know enough to know if I really am transgender or not), I act as such in public and I'm still a virgin at 24. Never even had a relationship. Of course, being quite the introvert and not looking for relationships have both had their effect on my "virginity" (I don't personally believe there is any such thing, it's just your first time of having sex).

[WarHeadJoe3]

people just like to cause a scene to get attention. dont let it bother you. just because youre a virgin doesnt mean that you are not mature, or that you are stupid or whatever.