people who knew you before you start transition , it takes a lot of time and effort to change the things that are implemented in their minds about you
cis people usually find it hard to understand or comprehend the whole thing
you do pass as everyone here says , but the thing is (at least this is what i think) it might be anything other than your looks , maybe after T and having deeper voice and maybe facial hair will make it hard for anyone to mistake you for a girl , however , the people who know you before transition are the problem because as i said , former state is implemented in their minds
now i used to not be able to stand up for myself , and people used to take advantage of me just for kicks , but then i taught myself how to be aggressive , never let anything goes unless i know the offender genuinely meant no harm , replacing sadness by anger helped , but most of all being determined that i will not let this go even if i look bad , without looking too angry about it . but just to be able to sleep at night i have to respond , sometimes (in cases similar to that FB AH guy) i even respond by offending them back , trying to locate their biggest weakness and go down on it so hard that i sometimes feel i'm a bad person
what i'm trying to say is , every problem has a solution , but it needs time that's all , and teaching yourself stuff , and training yourself to fix what you think needs fixing , i've always thought that deep inside , people are somewhat similar to monkeys , you just don't show them any weakness or else they will use it and abuse you
anyway , time does heal everything if you have the determination and going to the right direction , and trying to ignore stuff like that really helps
another thing i've found helpful is cutting relations with people who have a certain image about me in their heads that i don't like and it's changed but stuck in their heads
anyway , i hope anything i said helps
