Quote from: andthenwekisss on July 08, 2010, 09:33:56 PM
Tina I totally agree with Janet! You are family here! I've never felt so welcomed to a new forum before. Everyone here is so caring and lovely. I don't know you but I really care about you. Mainly because you seem so sweet and warm and you're being treated so disgustingly. I hope you don't leave here! You may need us and we definitely need you.
Awwwwwwwwwwwww! I am all choked up! That was such a sweet thing to say to me, I feel really happy that I know you! And yes, I care about you too! I care for all of you! I won't leave here again I promise.
*Christina interlocks her pinky finger with andthenwekisss
Pinky swear.
Post Merge: July 08, 2010, 09:48:52 PM
Quote from: Shang on July 08, 2010, 09:43:59 PM
I hope everything goes good for you! If you need anything, feel free to contact me.
(BTW, I love your avatar! You're really cute! 
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Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww 2 really sweat comments in a row, I am the happiest girl ever right now. Thank you so much you two!
And will do! I need to talk when I feel like that again so I don't do something stupid like I did, or something
really stupid that cannot be undone
Post Merge: July 08, 2010, 10:57:42 PM
Quote from: Jen on July 08, 2010, 09:57:33 PM
Tina, I'm sorry about the emotional pain you feel. I want to just say that there is an optimistic way to view all this, which is other than how quickly you can start living as yourself, this really isn't a setback.
Sure, you may not be able to openly express yourself right now, but
1) you can start seeing a counselor (you have to talk with them, often for a few months before they will give you a letter for hormones anyway)
2) you can start working on your voice
3) you can start figuring out your style and maybe even sneak in some purchases
4) you can start finding supportive friends.
All of these things you don't need to be living day-to-day as a woman for and they are absolutely necessary steps in your transition and for most of them it may be a good idea to have them done before transitioning publicly anyway. I would have put electrolysis on the list, but that one may be risky.
So anyway, just concentrate on setting things up for a smooth transition in September. Good luck and chin up!
September may or may not have fallen through. The duplex we were going to get is gone, so now we don't have somewhere, but they are looking for another place... so this may or may not work out at all. So that is adding a lot to my stress, something I had forgotten to mention.
My girlfriend has my stash of clothes, but yeah, I will keep my eyes peeled for good deals on nice stuff when I am out and about.
I keep forgetting to make a counselor appointment. So that is priority one after some life and school related things.
My voice, that is the thing, I never have a place to practice and I don't ever think it sounds convincing. I am a singer. I am able to sing the Alto lines for songs no problem. So range is not the issue. It just sounds fake when I speak. :/ So yeah I need to work on that, I wish I had live guidance by a voice trainer or another trans woman.
Supportive friends! Yes! I now have a new one from all of this! And the funny thing is I was thinking about who my friends are. They are all girls, bar my brother and my neighbor that I have been friends with for 17 years!
He identifies as a bisexual androgynous that prefers male pronouns, I was out with him before anyone else.
He was so understanding. Yeah, so I make friends with girls easier than guys...
