confused on how i feel.

[rexyrex]

im not sure if this is the right place to post, sorry if it is in the wrong place please move it.

im a F but a M in the inside and i do dress like one act like one ect....i have got a boyfriend and i have explane to him on how i feel, and he can understand that and will be my side if anything happens,

right lately im dreaming and thinking about girls alot so would that class me as bi?

i dont know that why i need to know if i am or not, but i have never dated a girl before, apart from i did fancy my best friend and she knows that, but i cant have her cos of her religion and i respect that

[James-Alen]

It's really hard to say sometimes. I've had a solid interest in men my whole life, though I did date and MTF once, as well as have an eye on a bio girl that was my friend (similar situation) but that didn't go anywhere. It can be confusing, especially when cis gendered people (like parents) say stupid things like 'if you want to be a guy you should be with girls.' Honestly the best advice I can give is to experiment. If you stay with your BF, awesome. If you don't, don't be afraid to test the waters.

[Shang]

It's really hard to say sometimes. I've had a solid interest in men my whole life, though I did date and MTF once, as well as have an eye on a bio girl that was my friend (similar situation) but that didn't go anywhere. It can be confusing, especially when cis gendered people (like parents) say stupid things like 'if you want to be a guy you should be with girls.' Honestly the best advice I can give is to experiment. If you stay with your BF, awesome. If you don't, don't be afraid to test the waters.

Pretty much this.

I would love to be with a girl, but I would much rather be with a feminine man or an MtF (however, I can't seem to find a feminine man or an MtF ).  I'm not certain I'm bi because I've never been physically with a girl, but I have dated them.   

[rexyrex]

thanks...well im living on my own so my family don't really know what going on with my life at the moment

well im having mix feelings about my boyfriend and he knows that, so that why i made a post on here about it....and i said to my self i dont think i will get anyone els or an other guy after this, but i dont know if it true as i dont know what will happen.

i can Imagen my self being with a girl but i dont know if it will work the same way as i think it will, but i never know unless i try.

also if i do break up with my bf he said we can best friend which i dont mind. (dont know if it will happen tho lol)
Post Merge: June 24, 2010, 10:55:56 AM

Pretty much this.

I would love to be with a girl, but I would much rather be with a feminine man or an MtF (however, I can't seem to find a feminine man or an MtF ).  I'm not certain I'm bi because I've never been physically with a girl, but I have dated them.

i guess they are hard to find....

but i do remember my dreams so well

[Tom]

I used to constantly ask myself the exact same question but then I thought about. My perspective runs along the lines of "as long as I love that person and they love me, their gender and sexuality is not the priority". If that makes any sense. Because honestly, we already have so much to worry about so if there is that significant other who is willing to take care of us either way, then it's all good. ^^

[Amy1177]

I am a guy but would love to be female or at least a lot more feminine.  My wife and I have discussed at length feminizing myself in the future at the very least to the point of breast enlargement and probably more.  My wife and I are also very attracted to MTF's so wonderfully we are a good fit.  We do have kids to think about so it won't be for a while before we can move forward with more transitioning.  But through it we have learned a lot about ourselves through spirituality and we quite honestly God and the Goddess both love all of us unconditionally regardless of gender, sexual preference, or any other character trait you would like to bring to the table.  We are here on Earth to experience life and learn for Them in every way possible.  We are all male and female entities on the Other Side when we leave this existence and we have all of our preferences there as well.  You are probably a male entity on the Other Side and wanted to experience life as a woman here.  All of your masculine preferences are just coming through. 

Once you take some time to really do some soul searching and learn about yourself, you will get over your confusion and can be an ecstatically happy person.  I read a lot of Sylvia Browne's books and her information just felt right.  Try giving some of her stuff a look through.  Maybe she can help guide you out of your confusion as she did me.

[chrysalis]

Sylvia Browne is terrible and a proven fraud.


More to the point though...

Don't worry about your label. It's honestly one of the least productive ways to spend your time. Focus instead on what you like at the moment. You'll find your tastes change. There is a growing understanding in the study of human sexuality that people's tastes change over their lifetime. Your tastes grow with you, and where you start may not be where you end.

[Fencesitter]

I guess if you're into boys and girls, you're bi. You needn't be 50/50 to be bi.

[rexyrex]

hmm well i am going to try and open up more and be more as my self and go out and do load of different things and make more friends, cos i am into a small world and i dont know who i am at the momnet, i do love my bf very much and he loves me but he said he dont want to be with me if i go ahead with the T, but he will be there for me as a best mate, also i have made a new friend the other day and i think i fancy her. also i had a weird dream again, that i did go ahead with the T and i had facial hair and thought it was cool.

so yeah i will have to keep searching and bring out of more of my self, my bf have started to noticed i became more boyish which is a good thing for me

[Raven]

Crud replyed on the wrong post ignore this plz

[rexyrex]

the more i try and find out what i really wants makes me even more confused! went into town the other day with my bf and there this girl, i dont know who she was but she came up to me and flirted with me  and said that she liked my sunglass's, but then her friends had to drag her away but she keeps looking at me. i felt great for some reson and my bf was like  and wanted to say hey leave me gf alone but i told him to shut up. Also i wanted to say something to the girl but i couldn't as i have a horrible high voice which i hate so much!

Right my bf knows how i feel but he doesn't help and i feel like im getting bored with him even though i love him to bits, so i have no idea what to do and i feel like im stuck and not going anywhere.