tricky situation

[Jess]

i am not sure how to word this,  i am wondering how others have or think they would deal with this or similar situation

okay... imagine you are not "out", a close friend or siblings child (male) is demonstrating some female traits, and often asks questions like "is this too girlish"  (toys, clothes) etc..
i am not worried about influencing them into GID ( total nonsense ) rather not wanting them to feel forced into a certain stereotypical gender role, but at the same time not setting them up for ridicule and/or abuse for not being "normal"

not sure if anyone can follow, but any comments suggestions would be appreciated
thankx

[Steph]

i am not sure how to word this,  i am wondering how others have or think they would deal with this or similar situation

okay... imagine you are not "out", a close friend or siblings child (male) is demonstrating some female traits, and often asks questions like "is this too girlish"  (toys, clothes) etc..
i am not worried about influencing them into GID ( total nonsense ) rather not wanting them to feel forced into a certain stereotypical gender role, but at the same time not setting them up for ridicule and/or abuse for not being "normal"

not sure if anyone can follow, but any comments suggestions would be appreciated
thankx

Just answer them honestly Jess.  If this is a male and they are asking  "is this too girlish" and you think is is then simply say so.  That applies with any question.  As you implied, you cannot cause someone to be GID, you are born that way (although there are some who would dispute that).  Honesty is always the best way to go, they are asking you what "you" think, as they obviously respect your opinion.

Steph

[Jess]

steph, thanks very much, i think that is exactly what i needed to hear.
i am reading/looking in to it too much, it is much clearer in my head now,
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