Well, technically, I'm entering into a Civil Partnership. In 6 weeks time.
Here's my dilemma - only a few of the guests know I'm trans. The rest just think I'm a v butch lesbian. And after all, this is a same-sex wedding, so perhaps now's not the time to confuse things for the elderly relatives...
My partner is wearing a seriously hot Day of the Dead rockabilly dress. I WAS going to do the same....yes, me in a dress
This is because I know my family will be horrified if I wear a suit, and I figured a mad rockabilly dress would at least feel more like 'fancy-dress' than a wedding frock. However, my best friend and my girlfriend have talked me out of the dress thing, knowing how unhappy it was making me. Now I'm trying to work out what to wear that won't make me look like the biggest stereotype in the world.
I know there's a fashion thread, but there's more to this than just 'what to wear'. I am not comfortable in my own skin, nor do I ever feel comfortable in anything that shows my boobs...or curves...or, well, anything, really! The only thig about my body I like is my tattoos, which I'd quite like to show off at the wedding. This is seriously messing with my head, as I want to be true to me, not feel like an idiot, and 'do right by everyone'. Naturally, I lean towards a suit, but I don't want to do the "One girl in pretty dress, one (sic) in a tux" civil partnership thing.
I have found a cool Day of the Dead tie online, and some black skull and rose baseball boots that more or less match (the tie and my gf's dress), so that's a starting point! Any ideas as to how I can not go mad choosing what to wear? I spent the morning choosing cupcake flavours for the reception, and trying to do a table plan, which is bad enough!
