What if being 'out' ís being your best, for you? What if not trying to please everyone by presenting a perfect picture, but instead presenting the fractured person that you are ís good for a lot of people?
No; it often won't get you a raise. It often won't get you promoted. Is that right, though? Is the world good as it is, with nothing but conformists walking the streets? Is it normal to be normal?
My father once had a talk with one of his parishioners.
P: 'Well; I think homosexuals aren't normal!'
F: 'Maybe, but then again: Who ís?'
P: 'I'm normal!'
F: 'You are? That's abnormal...'
The point being is: Yes! Everyone is a unique little snowflake. Just as unique as everyone else. The world is slowly, but steadily, going in a direction that states that self-expression is better than being a conformist. That it is better to be truthful and honest about who and what you are, and what you have experienced in your past, what has made you you, then just putting yourself in a black tux and be whatever is expected of you.
The irony is: To conform to the new world, you're going to have to express yourself.
If being yourself is to live up to other's expectations, then that should be fine. If your 'being the best I can' is what's best for you, then that should be supported. For other people, things are different. And that doesn't make you bad, nor does it make thém bad, in return.
The world turns, times change, and to be, we really have to start being. And if you can shamelessly be, then nobody will mistake you for anything else.
Just remember: It is usually self-disgust and anxiety that fuels anger and fear towards others. So my question is: Are you really happy about yourself? Really?
