Are SOs a rare breed?

[Lacey Lynne]

Like Cynthia both I and my partner are also SO's.

As we didn't meet until we were both long term done and dusted you may think it doesn't count though.

I do not totally agree. Having been through transition and SRS, particularly if like my partner Alison, who is older than me, you didn't start until you were a little older, can still leave certain emotional scars. So just occasionally one or other of us will find ourselves also acting as unpaid support group.

Very much in agreement.

My for-now-wife and I remain together for now; however, she will eventually leave whenever she has the wherewithal to do so. 

It makes perfect sense to be with another transperson as a roommate in the beginning.  Who better to understand your situation?  Certainly, the later transitioner will have more baggage, I would imagine.  Could this relationship evolve from roommates into significant others, as in this case.  Of course!  In fact, I think two T-girls can successfully become significant others very happily so. 

In my case, I feel I'm getting too old to find another significant other.  However, I'm open to the possibility.  Another T-girl?  Why not?  I'm wide-open to this. 

@ everbody:   Enjoyed all of your posts.  Very good thread here.   Thanks.

[Arch]

In Holland we have the phrase: "For every pot there is a lid that fits".

I don't think this applies to me...I am a crackpot.

Seriously, I think I had my "lid" and he is gone now. I tried so hard to live as a straight girl, and I made it work. Apart from the trans issue, we were practically perfect for each other. That sort of relationship doesn't come along every day.

I don't expect to be in another relationship because, frankly, for most gay men, everything depends on the penis. As in, the presence of one. I don't know what any gay man would see in me once he found out what I don't have in my pants. I wouldn't stick around either, if the situation were reversed.