Who was the first person you told?

[Matt Chase]

Or who's the first person you plan to tell, or who was the first person who knew if you didn't tell them but they figured it out... feel free to change the question to fit your answer

How did you tell them, why'd you pick them, what was their reaction? I'm just curious about your stories.

I've only told one person- a friend of mine who's been very supportive of me this summer and who i've been able to trust with a lot of things. We were texting and i told him my life was strange, he asked why and i ended up telling him that i'm transgendered, that i've always known i wasn't meant to be female. He asked a few questions regarding whether i wanted surgery or hormones and was altogether very accepting, it felt so good to have someone finally know.

[Arch]

My ex, early in our relationship. He was the only person I really trusted, and anyway it was pretty obvious that I wasn't just a garden variety female. He was fine with it--as long as I didn't actively do anything about it. So I didn't, except for binding at the opera and a few other events. That didn't go over too well with him, but I didn't do it very often. Soon I quit altogether because he was so uncomfortable with it and because I started gaining weight and couldn't bind very effectively (no Underworks back then, and I wasn't on T).

Of course, years and years later, when I realized that I had to transition, he accused me of never having told him...

[Elijah3291]

I told my brother the moment it crossed my mind.  I was thinking about it for a few days beforehand, and it just kinda clicked, so i mentioned it to him.

I told him cause we are really close, and he and I both laughed at it, kinda thought it was funny "so you are a gay man in a girls body?" thing lol

[Shang]

I think I told a friend at school, but it's because I thought he was open-minded to understand--he wasn't.  He thought I was lying and always sarcastically and meanly called me a "guy".  It was never nice.

Then I told my sister and I thought she was fine, but she keeps repeating the name I was born with no matter what.

[Zack]

I've never actually came out to anyone. My friend figured it out about a year ago by himself from my constant hints (& then told me he was also thinking he may be FTM) and my parents found out by finding a letter from the gender therapist.

Quite typical of me, because I'm such a wuss. I would still be worrying over coming out about 5 years from now if it weren't for the 3 most important people in my life finding out for themselves. So I'm set now, everyone that needs to know, knows.

As for reactions, my friend was obviously fine with it.
My Mum is amazing and being great about it.
My Dad didn't take it as well but he's getting there, slowly.

[Everyone]

The first person I told was my best friend. She has been very supportive of me, and helped me with getting through stress. She recently got me the phone number to a free therapist who I think would be willing to give me a letter for HRT. So I'm really happy about that. =]

[Alainaluvsu]

IDK if I should tell my boss, my mother, or my friends that I play card games with. My boss, because eventually I'm sure one of his customers is gonna complain about me having breasts, my mom because .. well she's my mom and the only family I have pretty much (cept my brother, which we aren't on good terms currently for really stupid reasons), or the people I play cards with because they seem to have an open mind about such things.

I'm leaning towards the card game friends because I've only known them since April, they're totally outside of my circle (cept facebook), and they seem to have a few gay friends and seem to be like "whatever' when they talk about how they came out. However, there's a 14 yr old in that group who plays with his dad and IDK if his dad would be cool about having a transsexual sitting next to his son playing cards. He kinda doesn't want us bringing up sex or anything around him so.. yeah..

[KHOL]

my girlfriend, i told her that i have always felt like a guy inside, and that i was planning on doing therapy for it so i could look like i have always wanted, i told her because i did not wanted to lie to her and i trust in her so much, the first time i told her she said "well, that does not changes much because i will still love you no matter what, i will be here by your side to support you" it made me so happy inside, i really wish some people could be more open-minded about these kind of stuff

[Kay]

Mine was my ex, also early in the relationship, because  I loved her and trusted her completely.  (ie.  I was young and foolish.)
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It was a complete disaster.  I only found out after I told her, how emotionally unstable and selfish she really was.  (She knew what I needed, but wouldn't let me go.  I won't get into all the messy specifics, but she had a tendency to leverage self harm and suicide among other things to make me feel either obligated to stay...or too afraid to leave.  Wasn't a pretty meatgrinder to get caught in.) 
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As for people from my past, she's the only one that knows right now.  My younger sister will be the first one I tell. I've tried to steer the conversation that way the last couple of times we've met this year, but never seem to get the privacy needed.  Why her?  Most of my family is fairly religious.  My dad's off the deep end in paranoia phobic land.  The rest I'm not sure about.  But I'm pretty sure my younger sister would accept me (like me, she's not very religious).  I've hinted enough that she knows something is up.  I'm not sure if she has guessed what yet.  All of them will know by this time next year though, so it's going to be interesting.

[Cindy]

My parents when I was 13 (long ago ). My wife when we started a relationship. Now, just about everyone.

Cindy

[Saskia]

The answer to this was my spouse who pretty much left me very soon after. This set the wheels in motion next was my parents/family, local Doctor. By this time I didn't care who knew because I was finally doing something about sorting myself out. Work was next, but they (the girls in the office) had guessed already.
This was all a very long time ago and it was one of the worst periods of my whole life. Very traumatic and stressful.

[Sinnyo]

My first was technically my GP, but I told a close friend I'd not seen in a long time about a month and a half after that - I've been dead slow in coming out. I'd really suffered that winter, because I'd finally worked out what my problem was and I felt I couldn't tell anyone. Eventually I plucked the courage up to tell him, first by asking if I could come over in a vague Facebook message. His boyfriend is involved with a variety of local LGBT societies, and so I mentioned I needed that sort of advice. He may have assumed I was gay at first, but after a nice catch-up I basically just 'got to the point', and we talked for a long while about our shared teenage experiences, what 'coming out' is, how gay and trans issues pair up and differ.. it was a great conversation, and I really thanked him for helping me relieve the burden of secrecy.

[pebbles]

An ex accused me of begin trans when I was in my mid-late teens and attempted to get me to open up along those lines (Taking me to see alot of Media with transgender persons in it.) I lied and said I wasn't a transsexual as I thought it would effectively mean the end of our relationship.

My best friend asked me later if I wanted to be a woman (3 years ago) and I admitted it to him. Although he knew I didn't talk about it much to him.

My sister found out another 2 years later and she asked me about it.

[Izumi]

My sister, because she just loves surprises. 

she always said she wanted a little sister when she was younger.  Heh, Now i think she is more thrilled about it then I am.

[Janet_Girl]

Other than my old therapist, my first was an old manager.   He passed on to upper management who were respectful, till I said I was going to transition on the job.  I of course got fired, but this was 20 years ago.

[Samantha_Peterson]

My best friend...we're still Best Friends ^_^

[Jillary Woolen Xσx]

My younger Brother
He's my Heart

I was like 13 and he was 11 and we were listening to "Prince - Controversy"
when i told him i thought i was a girl.
He Laughed and Said "I think you're a Girl too"

I've always been super greatful to have him in my life

[Jillieann Rose]

The first persons I told, were those who read my writing here at Susan's.
I was so happy to be part of a community with people like me.

Not counting Susan's it was my spouse. Because not telling her would be like keeping her at arm distance and lying to her.  I knew she would find out sooner or later anyway and she is my best friend.
But when I told her it didn't work out very will. She was jealousy for me and of me (the women inside). She hated seeing my female apparel, jewelry and toiletry.
Before too long she moved into the guess bedroom.
And at one point she was looking to leave. 
It was a very rough time.

About a month ago she said she has forgive me.
She seem to be accept me for who I am.
Jillieann

[K8]

Other than my spouse, the first person I told was my best straight male friend.  I thought I should tell someone else first to practice, because I would miss him more than most people if it didn't go well.  But I was ready to tell and we had a lunch date and, well, it just worked out that I told him first.  After his deer-in-the-headlights look, he recovered and said we would still have the same relationship.  But we don't - we're even closer now.

Good luck!

- Kate

[LivingInGrey]

The first person I opened up to was my S.O about 8 years into our relationship. Since then she's told just about everyone in her family. They've been good about it though and haven't tried to talk to me and they haven't made it seem like I'm some super freak, they've all told her that they'd support me if I made the decision to transition. She's also told a few of her friends.

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Not like "hey, can you keep a secret" didn't mean much to me I guess.

But everyone so far hasn't gotten all weird about it so it might not be that bad of a fate, just as long as my side of the family doesn't hear anything about it unless I choose to transition. It does feel good though that I'd have a pseudo family in case mine went off the deep end if I choose to transition.