There's this gay guy (little flammy) I know and I think he's either attracted to me and doesn't know how to ask me out .... Or he wants to remain as friends. I am getting annoyed a bit because I don't want to ask him if he's interested in me because its at my job place. He's a good 6 inches taller than me too, and a decade. He's single as far as I am aware of as well... I search his face book.
First thing first, he made me the employee of the month when I first came in. Secondly he smiles at me 75% of the time when he sees me, he sometimes say my name loudly too. Thirdly he sometimes go out of his way to speak to me, but its just short sessions (less than 2 minutes; just a few sentences). He's not a shy guy at work either. Then he touched my arm for one second when walking away from me, as he was coming down the stairs. One time I dropped a box of onions (it's a grocery store) and rush to me to pick them all up.
But then he doesn't look at my eyes when I say something to him a few times, but just speak without eye contact while I on the other hand give him 100% eye contact. That's pretty much hard for me to do usually but I want to "attract" him because I read something psychologically it attracts with direct eye contact. Then when I forgot a password to something, he was going to spend 10 minutes with me so I kind of ruined it, I was like, "Is this happening now?" and he was like "Y-eaaaah..... *5 seconds*" ,...."Should I go upstairs and get the password"... he replies, " Okay just wait.... Blah blah forget his password... hmmm hmm. ...I'll be right back" kind of snotty to me as if he was impatient, but then change reactions quickly. About ten minutes later he was all smiling saying he will show me when I am at work again in his shifts. I am not sure if he's more upset about not spending time doing it now with me, but he really change in that split second. I can't really read what he was thinking...
Still I told him the only good shift I had was Sunday, and he said, "I never work Sundays, whenever we meet" * he tap my arm*. My boss later gave me the password on Thursday, all happily too, which was odd since she's really evil to the core.
I doubt I'll see him again this week unless they call me in so this is probably the most important moment if there's going to be something between us.
Whenever I am with him I usually do make a mistake, like drop papers, forget information, clueless about things, or something. He probably has the impression now that I am air headed, which I wasn't trying to do but it just happens.
I don't know how to get the message directly to him that I want to date him, or give him the courage to think that I am gay.... I just don't want to come out at my job place. But I want him to keep it a secret if I do.
What do you think I should do? Be really flirtatious, like make sexual innuendos. Or just be normal regular conversations. There's going to be this electronic telezom, which will scan items, it's like a handheld gun-thing, so I am going to assume he's going to press buttons on it. Should I touch his hand "accidentally" somehow.
Do I just have a crush or is it reciprocal from the sounds of it??? I type more than I needed to, but I guess I am desperate to date a guy.
I will assume he thinks I am straight so I am not datable to him, but there's just a touch of chemistry. He looks at me a lot... but it's now been a year since I been working.
