Greetings from an uncertain non-man

[E]

Yeah, I keep hearing people talk about "transitioning in a vacuum," doing the things that feel right to them regardless of what anyone else thinks.  But, damn, it's hard to live in the real world while doing that!

Yeah.

It looks like it'll be hard no matter what. I really don't wish to find myself in a situation where it'll be even harder than normal. I certainly do not intend to make things harder for myself than they already are deliberately.

[Jillieann Rose]

Ilan Reshon and E,

doing the things that feel right to them regardless of what anyone else

Your both right it hard either way.
But I'd rather go the way I think is best than be pushed in the direction others wait me to go.
I went that route and just got older and more depression, I was going nowhere.
It cost me years of time. Time that I could have been moving forward. Time that I could have been enjoy life.
Now I have had to started over again in my transitioning.
I won't do that again.
Jillieann

[E]

Ilan Reshon and E, Your both right it hard either way.
But I'd rather go the way I think is best than be pushed in the direction others wait me to go.
I went that route and just got older and more depression, I was going nowhere.
It cost me years of time. Time that I could have been moving forward. Time that I could have been enjoy life.
Now I have had to started over again in my transitioning.
I won't do that again.
Jillieann

No, indeed, and I am not planning to let myself get pushed into an unsatisfactory direction by social pressure. I merely hope that the right direction for me turns out to be the easier route. If I turn out to be male-to-androgynous or third gender or any of the myriad varieties out there, I'll pursue that. But I hope I turn out to be male-to-female.

[jainie marlena]

Hi, E

I have been here for few months. I am glad that I found it online. taking your time is good, but some time it feels more like slow motion to me. I am married and have 5 kids. wife knows and so does my 14 year old son. finding who you are to me was first step. now I know. step two letting some people know, not everyone just who needed to know. step three focus, focus, focus. I can't think off how hard it was just focus on my new goal. I seem to find myself in the back set of my own life around others in my familiy. I am 36 years old some times it scares me to think that I could still be like I was 10 years ago. Knowing is a big part of solving this puzzle. Even kings sit down and make plains before the battle. I have learned a lot from susans in just the few months of coming here. good place for battle plains and solving puzzles.