I almost came out to my mom.

[Devyn]

Almost. Keyword. More like, I tried.

I started mentioning Degrassi and as you may or may not know, there's an FtM character named Adam. Anyway, I said that I feel like it may have been too early to bring in a transgendered character because it seems like a lot of the watchers still don't understand it and always say stuff like, "Adam is a really pretty girl. He should stay a girl!"

Then my mother said, "If my child was transgender..."

I grinned and said, "Okay?"

And she said, "I would be very upset - extremely upset. Disappointed, but I would accept it." However, she also went to say she finds transsexualism and ->-bleeped-<- disgusting.

I couldn't help but laugh and say, "Okay." She turned around, looked dead at me with a serious look and said, "What does that mean? Are you saying you're transgender?!"

And, without thinking, I said, "Uh, I'm not! Really!" Then I ran to my room.

She looked relieved.

I would've told her, but as she said, she would be upset, disappointed, and thinks it's disgusting. I don't want her to think of me like that.

[lilacwoman]

one day you will have to bite that bullet and let her know because if you really are FtM and need to transition it will be an issue.
meanwhile you're stuck in the closet as firmly as most others.  good luck with whatever.

[Devyn]

one day you will have to bite that bullet and let her know because if you really are FtM and need to transition it will be an issue.
meanwhile you're stuck in the closet as firmly as most others.  good luck with whatever.

I know, but I'll be kicked out "or whatever" if I tell her. SO, if I DO tell her, it'll be later. And I mean after I've moved out.

[Chris968]

The same sort of thing happened to me once I was watching an episode of Law and Order SVU where one of the characters was born male and had a botched circumcision or something, so the parents had the kid live as a female, only she had male DNA and whatever... but anyway I was watching it with my mom and she started making all these comments about how that was so disgusting and "wrong".  Not that I was planning on coming out to her as being ftm at the moment, but it definitely scared me to pushing back my coming out by a few years.

Just like my mom said, when I came out, she was NOT accepting, but that was 2 years ago and she has made a complete 180 turnaround.  Your mom may have difficulty in the beginning but the best thing I think you should do is keep watching the show with your mom and educate her about it.  She most likely said it was disgusting because she doesn't understand anything about it.  Good luck

[Devyn]

The same sort of thing happened to me once I was watching an episode of Law and Order SVU where one of the characters was born male and had a botched circumcision or something, so the parents had the kid live as a female, only she had male DNA and whatever... but anyway I was watching it with my mom and she started making all these comments about how that was so disgusting and "wrong".  Not that I was planning on coming out to her as being ftm at the moment, but it definitely scared me to pushing back my coming out by a few years.

Just like my mom said, when I came out, she was NOT accepting, but that was 2 years ago and she has made a complete 180 turnaround.  Your mom may have difficulty in the beginning but the best thing I think you should do is keep watching the show with your mom and educate her about it.  She most likely said it was disgusting because she doesn't understand anything about it.  Good luck

I like how your situation was kind of the same as mine. Lol.

Anyway, I kind of do that now. If the transsexual subject is brought up (which seems to be brought up a lot between us because I mention it frequently since it's on my mind almost all of the time), I try to explain things about it to her so when/if I come out to her one day, she might be at least a little more accepting of it. However, at the same time, my mom is one of those people that refuses to believe anyone else is right until she's proven wrong, so it's a bit difficult trying to explain trans people to her.

But I mean, whatever. She has to find out someday - if she wants to still be close with me when I move out, she'll have to accept it because nobody can and/or will stop me from transitioning then.

[Kayla]

I recently came out to my mom, it's hard but just bite the bullet. I wish I had when I was your age, would've saved me a lot of time and depression.

EDIT: funny that you mention Degrassi. I started watching it during season 1, and decided when a MTF trans character appeared, I'd come out. But after drunken flipping through channels saw that episode, and settled on it.