Right, the situation is that I may well be forced to come out soon... It's not my idea and it isn't really anyone's fault either.
I got a long distance telephone call yesterday morning from Hong Kong that my grandma, who is nearly a centenarian, has passed away and because of this, me and my mother will have to make an emergency trip there very soon to sort out the funeral as per Chinese tradition.
Whilst no one really cares how you look in the UK, it's a different story in Hong Kong. Due to the temperature and social norms, guys with long hair are virtually non-existent and those that do are stereotyped as gangsters. My hair is currently longish but unstyled... I must admit that it doesn't look too good at the moment but I was hoping to grow it for a few more months before I get it sorted to the style I want. When I go there, I will no doubt be flooded with the same question left, right and centre "why aren't you cutting your hair" by not only my relatives but village members as well since my grandma is well known amongst the village, so me, as the grandson, will likely be the centre of conversations.
Whilst I am just thinking of how to come out to a few of my closest friends, this whole event has popped up out of nowhere. It seems like that when I get to HK, I will either have to cut my hair back to "male" length, or to come out that I am actually a girl inside. If I go with the latter, I am likely to be asking for trouble for two reasons... Firstly, although LGBT is more tolerated it still remains a very awkward subject and transsexuals are even less understood. Secondly since I am the only surviving male decendant on my grandma's side, I am supposed to take lead of the funeral... It is supposed to be the son's job, but since my father has passed away too, I am to assume his position, even though I don't know my grandma very well.
It seems like that I am in a very sticky situation. Any suggestions as to what I should do?