Having Children

[Pundit]

Sorry about the brevity of this topic. I don't have much time right now, and even so, I don't really have much to say on the matter. I was just wondering, do any of you MTFs wish that you could give birth to a child? I don't know if transsexuals are allowed to adopt children; they should be allowed, but you never know with all the crazy social conservatives in America. But, yeah, do you ever wish you could have a baby?

[Rayalisse]

Our adoption agency did not care if you were married, single, gay, straight, trans, or whatever.  As long as you were willing and able to provide a stable home for the kids.  Of course they did a thorough background check, investigated our home, and we had to go to classes and an extensive interview process to be considered as their clients, but I think that was all for the kid's benefit in getting a good match to our family.

We have adopted 3 separate times through the same agency in California (I can PM you the link to their site if you're interested) that specializes in getting Foster to Adoption referrals from Child Protective Services for special needs children whose parental / birth families have lost all rights (or are on the track to do so), and getting the kids into ANY stable environment is better for them than being bounced around as a ward of the state and growing up with no permanence in foster care.

[Pundit]

Our adoption agency did not care if you were married, single, gay, straight, trans, or whatever.  As long as you were willing and able to provide a stable home for the kids.  Of course they did a thorough background check, investigated our home, and we had to go to classes and an extensive interview process to be considered as their clients, but I think that was all for the kid's benefit in getting a good match to our family.

We adopted through an agency in California that specializes in getting referrals from Child Protective Services for special needs children whose parental / birth families have lost all rights (or are on the track to do so), and getting the kids into ANY stable environment is better for them than being bounced around as a ward of the state and growing up with no permanence in foster care.

Oh, okay. But what about biological children? Did you ever wish you could have a baby biologically? Or does that not really matter?

[Rayalisse]

Oh, okay. But what about biological children? Did you ever wish you could have a baby biologically? Or does that not really matter?

Maybe at one time I would have wanted to "grow my own" -  but now after 4 kids (3 adopted, 1 bio from my spouse)--- I'm done with that phase of my life either way.   Besides there are so many kids that need a home I wouldn't want to add more of my own to the mix. 

I think that being trans and an adoptive parent is the way it's meant to be  - we can be the angels that give them the home and life they would otherwise never have.  There are plenty of GG's who can't make babies of their own and I just lump us M2F's in that same bucket, and there are definitely other options if you want to give your heart to a child.

[juliemac]

Just after I transitioned, I moved to another city to live with a couple I knew.
My breasts were A cup and I wore cookies daily, working as a woman.
Well one night the female component of the couple made a pass at me. She was only the second woman I had been to bed with and it seemed like fun 

A few months later, she told me I was about to bedome a father. Humm.... I had isolated my self from my family, left all my freinds to start a new life and this?
I saw the baby born, held her in my arms and fell in love with her. Afterwards the male counterpart, took me to the side and told me the child wasnt his. He didnt know whos it was... AARRGGHH...

The mother left the father(?) and moved in with me and I transitioned out, back to the male part. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, but the child was mine and I had a responsibility....

When my daughter was 2, things started to get bad. The mother started to accuse me of sexually abusing the child and doing horrible things to her. Her family believed her and made my life miserable, after all, some one like me was a freak of nature. Messing with kids just went hand in hand after all... 2 of 3 brothers cut off all contact, only one continued to talk to me.

My lawyer (MY LAWYER) called the press and it went out wide. People in the town avoided me. People that knew me stopped talking to me. The CP rep, just barely let me hug my daughter during supervised visitation.

Years of family court, child protective visits and a spanish inquisition by 3 departments of the police and a battery of psychologists and psychiatrists, the court agreed. I was not the abuser. It was the mother. She was beating the child, then calling CP, blaming me.

1 week after her 5th birthday, she came to live with me full time. She is 19 now, graduated high school, has a job and planning for college. A normal, healthy, happy neo-adult.

Being a single parent has been hard, but for every giggle, every snuggle has been worth the wait for surgery. Now is my time...

[tori319]

Just after I transitioned, I moved to another city to live with a couple I knew.
My breasts were A cup and I wore cookies daily, working as a woman.
Well one night the female component of the couple made a pass at me. She was only the second woman I had been to bed with and it seemed like fun 

A few months later, she told me I was about to bedome a father. Humm.... I had isolated my self from my family, left all my freinds to start a new life and this?
I saw the baby born, held her in my arms and fell in love with her. Afterwards the male counterpart, took me to the side and told me the child wasnt his. He didnt know whos it was... AARRGGHH...

The mother left the father(?) and moved in with me and I transitioned out, back to the male part. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, but the child was mine and I had a responsibility....

When my daughter was 2, things started to get bad. The mother started to accuse me of sexually abusing the child and doing horrible things to her. Her family believed her and made my life miserable, after all, some one like me was a freak of nature. Messing with kids just went hand in hand after all... 2 of 3 brothers cut off all contact, only one continued to talk to me.

My lawyer (MY LAWYER) called the press and it went out wide. People in the town avoided me. People that knew me stopped talking to me. The CP rep, just barely let me hug my daughter during supervised visitation.

Years of family court, child protective visits and a spanish inquisition by 3 departments of the police and a battery of psychologists and psychiatrists, the court agreed. I was not the abuser. It was the mother. She was beating the child, then calling CP, blaming me.

1 week after her 5th birthday, she came to live with me full time. She is 19 now, graduated high school, has a job and planning for college. A normal, healthy, happy neo-adult.

Being a single parent has been hard, but for every giggle, every snuggle has been worth the wait for surgery. Now is my time...

Wow shes my age,That's a beautiful  and heartbreaking story Julie and its amazing that you were able to go through all that and still raise a well adjusted young woman.I'm very happy for you.

[Pundit]

Just after I transitioned, I moved to another city to live with a couple I knew.
My breasts were A cup and I wore cookies daily, working as a woman.
Well one night the female component of the couple made a pass at me. She was only the second woman I had been to bed with and it seemed like fun 

A few months later, she told me I was about to bedome a father. Humm.... I had isolated my self from my family, left all my freinds to start a new life and this?
I saw the baby born, held her in my arms and fell in love with her. Afterwards the male counterpart, took me to the side and told me the child wasnt his. He didnt know whos it was... AARRGGHH...

The mother left the father(?) and moved in with me and I transitioned out, back to the male part. It was the hardest thing I have ever done, but the child was mine and I had a responsibility....

When my daughter was 2, things started to get bad. The mother started to accuse me of sexually abusing the child and doing horrible things to her. Her family believed her and made my life miserable, after all, some one like me was a freak of nature. Messing with kids just went hand in hand after all... 2 of 3 brothers cut off all contact, only one continued to talk to me.

My lawyer (MY LAWYER) called the press and it went out wide. People in the town avoided me. People that knew me stopped talking to me. The CP rep, just barely let me hug my daughter during supervised visitation.

Years of family court, child protective visits and a spanish inquisition by 3 departments of the police and a battery of psychologists and psychiatrists, the court agreed. I was not the abuser. It was the mother. She was beating the child, then calling CP, blaming me.

1 week after her 5th birthday, she came to live with me full time. She is 19 now, graduated high school, has a job and planning for college. A normal, healthy, happy neo-adult.

Being a single parent has been hard, but for every giggle, every snuggle has been worth the wait for surgery. Now is my time...

Wow! That's a great story. Well, it's sad that you've had to wait so long before beginning surgery. And it's terrible how your ex accused you of abusing your daughter when she was really abusing her. But it's so wonderful that you raised her into a healthy, happy young woman. I think that's great.

[Tammy Hope]

Not at my age, but I mourn for all the aspects of "girlness" that I've missed...going to the prom, wedding dress, bikini at the beach, et al.

and giving birth certainly is on that list. But it's kind of weird, I'm well satisfied with the sons I have and don't think I can imagine having another child - I think I miss more the experience of going through pregnancy and child birth and nursing and so forth more than the actual status of being a mother.

[Asfsd4214]

Sorry about the brevity of this topic. I don't have much time right now, and even so, I don't really have much to say on the matter. I was just wondering, do any of you MTFs wish that you could give birth to a child? I don't know if transsexuals are allowed to adopt children; they should be allowed, but you never know with all the crazy social conservatives in America. But, yeah, do you ever wish you could have a baby?

I would have loved to have been able to have children of my own (and no... 'fathering' a child was never something I was ever going to consider)... but, it wasn't to be.

I would have loved a lot of things that weren't to be.

[juliemac]

I also have several "adopted" kids. Both male and female, thanks to my daughter 

I would have loved to bear a child myself, feel the kicks, breastfeeding etc. But After many freinds bearing children, sounds more like a PITA.
Ohh and the diapers... And the waking late at night...

[girl_ashley]

I too would love love love to experience the nine months of pregnancy and then the birth.  The stipulation would be that a set of adoptive parents would be arranged beforehand.