It seems that some people forgot some stuff like fat redistribution, muscle mass reduction, and facial shape changes. For the voice, I'm going to give a slightly different opinion in that I think it does have an effect on the voice. I believe it slightly thins the vocal cords and although it alone will not give you a female voice, I believe it will help in learning to speak in one. I've also experienced some scalp hair regrowth. As for sex drive, I used to have more of a male sex drive and that pretty much went away and I was left with no sex drive for a while, but then I gained a female one. The best I can describe it is you feel "horny", but your body shows no indication that you feel that way. As for butt/hips, I did gain a slight amount of fat there, but I already had some shape there before. I've lost about 3/4" of height so far. I'm not sure about hands/feet shrinking, since I haven't compared them to before. I know they both used to be the same size as my ex, so if I can compare to her again, I'd know. I was wearing a size 11 woman's shoe before, but now I wear size 10w. I don't know if they shrunk or if I was just wearing the wrong size before.
Now I've only been on HRT 10 months. I've noticed very little body hair reduction and muscle mass reduction, but my doctor did just up some of my meds a month and a half ago. Also, I never had much body hair, nor big muscles, so it doesn't concern me too much. I did have some good responses, like I have small size B breasts and you can see what I look like in my avatar pic.
Now, I think the reason you see so much conflicting info is because it seems to work differently for different people.
Melissa